Is It Possible For Introverts To Be Confident?


A few weeks ago, I was browsing Pinterest* and I stumbled upon a Buzzfeed quiz called “Are You Confident?” Usually I don’t take quizzes like this but IDK I WAS LIKE “WHY NOT.” The questions weren’t very good, but when I reached the end of the quiz, my result was: YOU ARE NOT CONFIDENT.

Really? Really?? Now, I’m not saying that Buzzfeed quizzes actually work. Nor am I saying that Buzzfeed quizzes are always wrong. What I am saying is: I know I’m a confident person. I know that I have gained a MASSIVE amount of confidence over the past 4 years. And I also know why I got “not confident” on the Buzzfeed quiz. It was because I answered the questions like an introvert. I said no, I don’t like socializing, going to parties, talking to large groups of people. No, I don’t have a lot of friends and no I don’t like to leave my house unless it’s a life or death situation. WHY? BECAUSE SPOILER ALERT I AM AN INTROVERT.** And apparently Buzzfeed has a different definition of Introvert than I do. It’s a common mistake that a lot of people make. Let’s figure out why.

*avoiding editing
**I know it was absolutely no spoiler at all because I scream it from the rooftops enough don’t I???


“Aw, come on, don’t be shy!” < HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU HEARD IT? I guess that depends on whether or not you’re an introvert but me speaking for myself here: I’ve heard it a lot. Mostly when I was younger, and hiding behind my mother’s legs 25/8 because YES I SPENT THE FIRST HALF OF MY LIFE* AS THE “SHY KID.” I hear that term less now, but I still get picked on for being quiet (read: QUIET DOES NOT MEAN SHY) and for APPEARING less confident just because I’m not very good at conversation. (read: GOOD AT CONVERSATION DOES NOT MEAN CONFIDENT) When it comes to the nuances of personalities, the discussion could go on forever.** But for now, let’s just ask one question: why do people confuse Introverted with Shy? DON'T WORRY I'M HERE TO GIVE YOU ALL THE ANSWERS.


*Given the fact that I’m 20 years old at the moment so don’t come back to this post when I’m 72 and be like “holy smokes Abbie was hiding behind her mother’s legs even when she was 36 years old???” < no. although I can’t say for sure because I’ve yet to reach age 36 yet. Who knows. I might have a relapse or something.

**AT LEAST IT CAN WITH ME. seriously you ever want to get me to talk tell me your MBTI type then ask me what mine is then ask me to psychotype everyone in the room I won’t shut up for hours js

If this, then that. We do it all the time. “If they don’t talk much, they must be shy.” < Not always true. We make assumptions about people all the time; it’s part of our human nature. You assume everything based on past experience. You assume you won’t get hit in the head by a meteorite today because you haven’t been hit in the head by a meteorite yet. But when you do (come on it happens to all of us as one time or another) the odds will change just slightly.

The odds of a quiet person being shy are far greater than the odds of a quiet person being simply introverted. But let’s redefine a few things, okay? Because I just searched the definition of introverted and Google told me “a shy, reticent person” <<< WELL THAT’S JUST FUNNY ISN’T IT? Because “shy” and “reticent” aren’t actually synonyms. 

BECAUSE DICTIONARIES OFTEN GET THINGS WRONG. Including the proper spelling of colour and favourite. (I’m hearing a faint non-American applause in the distance…) Thus I bless you with The Abbiee Dictionary. (Now available for pre-order on Amazon...BUT NOT IN FACT.) Let’s talk about what the words Introverted and Confident mean – according to your favorite Waffle Queen™.

To me, introverted means:


• I like to be alone/with close family more than I like to be with friends/other people.

• I can stay inside for days on end and not get bored

• I bottle up my 842138465 different emotions and pretend I don’t have any! (LIVE LONG AND PROSPER.)

• I can listen to other people have a conversation and enjoy it without ever adding my two cents.

• I can articulate my thoughts 100000x better through written words than through speech.

• Socializing drains me, and I have to psych myself up to go out amongst other people.

• I get lost in my mind and I’m perfectly happy there.

• I’m more interesting than everyone I meet (oh wait maybe that’s just a self-conceited thing?? OOPS.)


SIDE NOTE: Introverted means different things to different introverts. But unless you ARE an introvert and have experienced the complexities of our psychology PLEASE DON’T STEREOTYPE US AS “SHY.”

To me, confidence means:


• I feel comfortable in my own skin.

• I ask questions without hesitation.

• I’m okay with being wrong. (But I can look like I know what I’m doing even when I have no freaking clue what I’m doing! BONUS.)

• I am aware of how cool I am. (Or at least I have a few things that I genuinely love about myself.)

• I’m not afraid to be honest with people, even if it’s difficult at times.


Disclaimer: I have a lot to learn about confidence. This is just a short list of the things I’ve come to notice in myself as I’ve grown in my own self-confidence over the past few years.

I’ll let you answer this one for yourself. I’ll give you five seconds okAY TIMES UP THE ANSWER IS NO. Introverted and Confident have two very different definitions, but that doesn’t mean they are polar opposites.

However, the opposite of confident is: unconfident. Characterized by hesitation, doubt, fear, timidity… these are obstacles that EVERYONE faces. Even me, even still today. Yes, I have grown in confidence. But it was a rocky road that brought me to the place I’m at today, and most people will have a similar experience. (Though hopefully not one as awful as mine. < Another post for another time. Oooh now you’re all really curious.)

Long story short, YES – it’s very possible to be an introvert AND be confident. I AM PROOF. Introverted does not equal shy. Yes, some introverts I know are also shy. But one doesn’t necessarily beget the other. It’s also possible for extroverts to have a lack of confidence! THAT’S A WHOLE NEW DISCUSSION HAHAHAHA. Let’s talk about all of this in the comments!

What do you think? Are you a confident introvert or an unconfident introvert? Do you get TICKED OFF when people call you “shy”? I DO IN CASE I HAVEN’T MADE THAT ABUNDANTLY CLEAR. How would you define “confidence”? Would you like a post with advice on how to be a more confident person??? Because I kind of want to write a post like that, now. SPILL UR BEAUTIFUL GUTS.

rock on,
abbiee

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  1. Thank you for your words on introverts. Thank you. I love it. No one understands what that word actually means. So... yeah... thanks. :D

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    1. GAH THANK YOU!! I'm so glad you can relate to this post omg <33333

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  2. I'm an extrovert, but I think y'all introverts can be confidant!

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    1. *HIGH FIVES* YOU ARE AWESOME THANK YOU :')

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    1. Oh my goodness, I had this HUGE LONG COMMENT and then it deleted??? sjflakdfjalfk <-- my rage.

      Basically the gist of what I was going to say was that 'cause and effect' thing really miffs me, too - especially when dealing with the fact that most people link 'talking' to 'extrovert.' Because I am definitely an introvert, but I want to be kind to people by initiating conversation/showing interest in their lives. But a lot of people interpret that as "she talks more than this other person here; she's the extrovert of the two" when actually that's not true and I'm actually stepping way out of my comfort zone to keep the conversation going.

      Lovely post, Abbiee! <3

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    2. OH NO I HATE IT WHEN THAT HAPPENS! I'm so sorry Emily! *gives you waffles of comfort* YES!! OMG SO MUCH YES TO WHAT YOU JUST SAID! My sister is the same way -- everyone thinks she's an extrovert because she's so great at initiating conversation, but she's told me that it's actually really hard for her. WE ARE NOT WHAT WE SEEM AT FIRST GLANCE AM I RIGHT?? *hugs* I'm so glad you can relate to this. ;)

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  4. Yes yes yes! Introverts can absolutely be confident!

    Nabila | Hot Town Cool Girl

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  5. Yes! I want a post on how to be more confident! I definitely agree with this post. Even though I am not an introvert, a few of my close friends are. And a great deal of the time introverts are more confident than extroverts. I know from experience. The more confident they act the better they feel about themselves. My almost sister acts so confident, talks to everyone, and is always smiling in social gatherings, but in real life, she's super insecure. I've been there as well, and still struggle with confidence sometimes.

    ~ Pip

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    1. YAY I'M SO GLAD because I really want to write a post about that... ;) I love what you said about extroverts being insecure too! Very good observations. And I can definitely relate to the confidence struggle. omg. <3 THANK YOU FOR READING DEAR

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  6. THANK YOU FOR THIS!!! I am introvert (INFJ) and I really hate how people automatically assume that introverts are shy or not confident. I agree with your take on confidence. It sounds a lot like the post I wrote on it! But yesssss....this post is great. I have a quote that I really like: "I'm not anti-social, just selectively social." I may have trouble starting conversations, but I can laugh at myself. I may be quiet, but I love myself. And those are elements of confidence. And it's okay to be the quieter person in the room. More time for people-watching right? :)

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    1. THANK YOU FOR THIS COMMENT! *hugs you and gives you waffles* YOU UNDERSTAND ME. <3 also I'm totally going to have to hunt down your post on confidence!! I COMPLETELY AGREE -- and I love that quote! People watching is always better than conversing. ;) *high fives* Thank you so much for reading, Clarissa!

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  7. THANK YOU!! This made me laugh with how true it is. I love your posts; they're all fabulous.

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    1. ASDFGHJKLKJHGFG OLIVIA THANK YOU OMG YOU JUST PUT A SMILE ON MY FACE <3

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  8. yesyesyes there are so many stupid misconceptions of introverts and confidence and shyness and ugh it's the worst! Also I get the "come on don't be shy" thing all the time, and I'm always internally thinking "that's exactly what to say to get me to be even more shy." thanks.

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    1. I AGREE 10000% HANNAH. Especially the don't be shy thing...omg. THE STRUGGLE IS REAL. xD If only people knew how non-encouraging that phrase is. :')

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  9. Fabulous post!
    I am definitely an introvert and have struggled with confidence because I'm a perfectionist (and I could go on about how much that gets in my way forever) and it makes me very self conscious.
    Shyness is my thing, but I look nice in it. I sometimes wish I could be more outgoing, but analyzing and learning from inside my head is the way I am. It's a good thing (^.^)

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    1. I CAN DEFINITELY RELATE TO PERFECTIONISM OMG. :') It's a struggle sometimes and it's not like I expect perfection from anyone other than myself?? ugh. *head desk* I'M THE SAME WAY, SARAH -- living in my head has always been my favorite thing. <3 thank you for reading!

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  10. *squeals happily and applauds both the post and your use of the Princess Bride gif* Also I really appreciate your comments on confidence. PLEASE WRITE A FULL POST ON HOW TO BE MORE CONFIDENT I WANT IT NOW.

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    1. SDFGHJKLSJADJ THANK YOU :''') I immediately thought of that GIF when I was using the word "introvert" so much! xD OK I SHALL WRITE A POST ON THAT THANK YOU HANNAH <3333

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  11. TRUE, TRUE, and TRUE. I consider myself part introvert, part extrovert but SO MUCH that you described is me. I do have to psych myself to interact with others (actually more like psych myself after interacting to convince myself I didn't just screw up) and I JUST CAN'T SEEM TO FIND VERY INTERESTING PEOPLE to be friends with. XD It sounds so conceited when you think of it but when you said it I was like YES, because I feel the same way so many times.

    Great post, I love your hilariously honest way of writing! ^.^ <3 xox

    Anna - www.worldthroughherheart.blogspot.com

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    1. I'M SO HAPPY YOU CAN RELATE TO THIS ANNA <333 And I can relate to your comment so much omg (especially trying to convince yourself that you didn't sound super awkward during a conversation <<< THE STRUGGLE IS REAL!) and I'm so happy I'm not alone in trying to find people half as interesting as myself to be friends with!!! WE CAN BE SELF CONCEITED TOGETHER OK <3 HAHA I'M SO GLAD YOU'RE HERE THANK YOU FOR READING ANNA :")

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  12. This post is so true, Abbiee, I loved it! I happen to be a not-so-confident extrovert, so I know for a fact that unconfident extroverts exist! And this post is proof that confident introverts exist as well. :-) And yes, you should totally do a post on how to be more confident! I would love to read it!

    ~Skylar Reese

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    1. ASDFGHJKL THANK YOU SKYLAR REESE <3 I'm so happy this post resonated with you!! and eeep I'm totally going to write a post like that because sfjlksjkla YOU ASKED FOR IT BRO ;) thank you for reading!!

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  13. PREACH SISTER!!! (INFP (I think (maybe it changed idk (what is my life even?!)))here) I used to be pretty shy as a kid, and I still avoid small talk and awkward social contact but I'm assuming that's my introvertedness (and maybe a tiny hint of socially awkward). Yeah, confidence has always been a struggle for me in certain situations (cannot sing in front of some people without coming close to hyperventilation) but when I want to talk to someone about something I'm interested in I have no freakin' problemo doing it, and I often enjoy it! (gasp!!!) I'm not afraid to speak up in class or ask questions or be a dork backstage with my frens. In fact, I think I'm more confident than a lot of people now that I've learned to start letting go of things that happened and start focusing on the things that are HAPPENING. I get that a lot of introverts can have some insecurities and seem less confident because they are so often fighting their demons in their heads, but that does not make them less confident than people who have more outwards struggles. Honestly, this post just summed up all of my very strong feelings on why introverts aren't necessarily unconfident, and I HAVE SO MUCH LOVE FOR IT! Now imma stop rambling XD (and they say that introverts don't like to talk. ha!)

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    1. ASDFGHJKSFLJLSAJ YOU GET THIS LIZ YOU GET MEEEEE <3333 *hugs and waffles of solidarity* I think we might be literally the same person tbh :') "In fact, I think I'm more confident than a lot of people now that I've learned to start letting go of things that happened and start focusing on the things that are HAPPENING." <<<< THIS IS STRAIGHT FIRE RIGHT HERE THANK YOU. <3 It's so true. I know how easy it is to fall into the cycle of overthinking your own awkwardness. xD THE STRUGGLE. IT'S REAL. asdfghjklsjfl I'm SO GLAD you liked this post!! *more hugs*

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  14. CAN WE JUST SCREAM THIS FROM THE ROOFTOPS TOGETHER PLZ THAT WOULD BE PERFECT BECAUSE THIS POST IS LIKE MY LIFE ANTHEM RN

    Also please do a post about how to be more confident because I definitely need that in my life xD

    <33

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    1. SHADKHSAKDJLJ CAN I HUG YOU FOREVER PLEASE <333333 this comment made my day. :"''')

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  15. YESSSS. Confidence has never been my forte as I awkwardly maneuver through real-life conversations BUT that is mainly bc I am an introvert and I prefer to converse with people I know really well (or online xD). I am an introvert and I am NOT shy but for the longest time I believed they were the same --> still recovering from that. And my brain likes to put self-confidence on the "pride" list as well so I'm constantly having to shove that lying voice aside and remind myself that being an introvert doesn't mean you're shy and being confidence doesn't mean you're prideful.

    ANYWAY. If my ramble didn't make sense, I basically adored your post here <3 <3

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    1. I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YOU AUDREY <333 It's definitely a common belief, that introvert/shy are interchangeable as well as confident/prideful. I'M GLAD YOU MENTIONED THAT BECAUSE IT'S ANOTHER GREAT POINT. Redefining things can be really hard! EEEP I'M SO HAPPY YOU LIKE THIS POST :''')

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  16. Oh my goodness so about "you're shy if you don't talk" which is sometimes wrong because some adults always tell me "oh Ellie is shy because she doesn't talk much in our conversations." It's not that I'm shy though. It's just because I like listening to what older people have to say because they are wayyyy more intelligent than what I have to say lol. Seriously though I just like listening to adults and listening to what they have to say.

    Anywho, GREAT POST <33333

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    1. SAME!!!! I always feel the same way and sometimes my mom will prompt me or something like "do you have something you want to say?" and I'm like "lol no I just like listening" <<< IT'S SO TRUE, TOO. I'm so happy you can relate to this post!! THANK YOU FOR READING <3

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  17. I am definitely an unconfident introvert, but that's a work in progress, and usually I can pretend I am a lot more confident than I am, and I'm guessing that's what I'll do for the rest of my life.
    Family used to give me the hardest time (and still do) for not talking a lot. It was a tradition at every Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc - embarass Meaghan to death.
    I think everyone has to figure out how to be confident in their life. Some people just take longer than others.

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    1. HEY FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT, RIGHT?? ;) I completely agree with you -- and it's so hard to be the quiet one, everyone always assuming your thoughts. UGH. *head desk* I'M SO GLAD YOU CAN RELATE TO THIS. *hugs you and gives you waffles*

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  18. INFJ here who does struggle with having confidence. BUT. I consider my introvert-ism (please tell me that's a word.. XD) and lack of confidence two totally different things and don't consider lack of confidence at all connected with being quiet-natured. I think each person, extroverted and introverted, have some amount of lack of self-confidence (however small) and each deal with it differently-- sometimes even being able to hide it. As an INFJ, I'm a pro at being able to hide my feelings in public (like feeling intimidated). Probably not the best thing to do but often when I'm feeling super intimidated I fake confidence and sometimes end up looking snide. #oops #INFJprobs

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    1. *HIGH FIVES* INFJs unite!! <3 wow yes I can relate to SO MUCH of your comment. :') Especially the hiding your feelings thing... ALL THE TIME. Bottle them right up. And then cry when you're alone. xD IT'S HAPPENED AND IT HAPPENS. and wow I can really relate to looking prideful when you're feigning confidence...SAME SAME SAME. It's like my insecurity thing -- I get cocky when I'm not feeling confident. fkjksljd ANYWAY I COULD RAMBLE ON ABOUT THIS FOREVER. THANK YOU FOR READING DUDE :)

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  19. I LOVE THIS!!!! Yes, we introverts are not all insecure. AND THAT GIF AAAHHH INIGO MONTOYA!!!! That is one of the best movies ever! I could quote it ALL DAY! Yes, write the confidence post! =D Also, your blog buttons aren't working, you might need to fix something.

    Micaiah @ Notebooks and Novels

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    1. SJKLKJDKLJ THANK YOU!! I'M SO GLAD YOU LIKE THIS POST <3 hahaha right?? I thought that would be the perfect usage of that GIF. eeep I'll totally write that confidence post!! ;) and omg thank you for telling me that about my buttons! I don't know what's up with that *rolls eyes* I'll look into it. <3

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  20. I LOVE THIS POST!
    I think that confidence and introversion are completely different things. There are plenty of shy introverts AND extroverts out there!

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    1. YAAAAAS SHOUT IT FROM THE ROOFTOPS <3 I agree 1000% and I'm so happy you like this post!! :D

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  21. I am actually an extrovert and yes I am confident. But sometimes I think I am also "the shy kid" in the group. I always thought I was a shy person when I was younger because I never walked up to a strange kid and started "making friends". And still I'm the silent one in a group of loud noisy kids who all seem to be aquainted with each other. Other folks though tell me I'm outgoing and all that and I'm like, "WHAT?!" But I'm still an extrovert because I'd pick going out to a bustling noisy Block Party (that was yesterday) over staying home and writing any day xD But no I agree with you and I don't think being quiet or introverted makes one not confident! Great post!

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    1. EEEP I'M SO HAPPY YOU LIKED THIS POST THANK YOU LISA <333 I completely agree, all of our personalities are so complex and different, we are definitely more than what meets the eye. ;) *HIGH FIVES AND GIVES YOU WAFFLES* thank you so much for reading!!

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  22. This was such a good post!!! SO TRUE. <3 Thank you for speaking out!!
    And those photos *heart eyes* I just want to eat your photography. ;D

    Also, I remember you mentioning in one of your recent posts that you were going to do some changes to your blog design? And that you said the person you got your current blog design from went out of business?
    Well, I bought one of her designs a few years ago as well and she actually didn't go out of business—she just changed to a different shop! (https://www.etsy.com/shop/FearneCreativeDesign)
    I thought you might like to know because you mentioned you weren't able to ask her questions about this design because her old shop disappeared!

    Anyhoo, so fantastic post as usual!! Your definition of introvert was AWESOME. :) Hahaha I totally agree with the last reason lolz

    Sophy of lantern-in-her-hand.blogspot.com

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    1. THANK YOU SOPHY <3 YOU'RE THE BEST OMG :'') I wish I had taken these photos lol but yes I love them tooooo. OH WOW SERIOUSLY?? thank you for that link!! How did you ever find her again?? omg you're a lifesaver. <3 I might still change my template, but we shall see. ;) HAHA I'M GLAD I'M NOT ALONE ON THAT LAST REASON *hugs you* thank you so much for reading!

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  23. THIS IS SUCH A FANTASTIC POST OH MY GOODNESS! <3 And yes I would love a post on how to be more confident because heaven knows I need it XD

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    1. ASDFGHJKFLDJS THANK YOU GRACE ANNE <3 <3 <3 YOU'RE THE BEST LOVE YOU :') I shall write that post for sure!!

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  24. This is great! Thanks for sharing <3
    http://forthekingdom.net

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    1. Thank you, Allanah!! :D

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  25. PREACH, SISTA. Seriously though, just because my description of an ideal night does not include being with a ton of people 24/7 does not mean that I am shy or insecure. It is a very freeing thing to realize that I don't have to try to pretend to be loud or bubbly if I don't feel that way at the moment. It's a good thing to spread the word that yes, introverts can be confident, too. :D

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    1. AHHH THANK YOU LAURA <3 I'm so glad you can relate to this post!! *HIGH FIVES* omg I agree 10000%!! it's not like we're afraid... we just prefer to be alone. xD AMEN TO EVERYTHING YOU SAID UP THERE. :')

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  26. You have perfectly articulated all my thoughts, Abbie! I hate it when people call me anti-social in particular. I'm not anti-social just because I like to read and I'm not talkative. (And I think anti-social is one of those words that"I do not think it means what you think it means"). Anyway, thank you for speaking up on behalf of us introverts. :D

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    1. AAAAH I'M SO HAPPY YOU CAN RELATE CHELSEA <3 I agree!! Anti-social is another word that is grossly misinterpreted. Like... I don't dislike socializing I just don't like socializing??? BIG DIFFERENCE. u get this u get me :''') THANK YOUUU

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  27. This is such a well-written post that I can fully relate to! <3
    Thank you for writing this, dear!

    Cheers,
    Novreica

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    1. Thank YOU!! I'm so happy you like this post, Novreica!! <333

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  28. Thank you for standing up for confident introverts! Introverts are misunderstood most of the time, and it's always good to start conversations like this. A lot of people think that "introverted" and "shy" are synonyms. I would disagree with one teeny tiny point, though: You use "shy" as the opposite of "confident," and I'm not sure that's the case. I think we might just have different ideas about what the terms are. I think you can be confident in who you are, but shy in social situations. There are a lot of different shades there.

    I've been called shy my whole life and never really knew what it meant to be introverted. A few years ago, I found out that I was introverted + have social anxiety. Two different things. And learning about each of them has helped me tremendously. I know WHY I'm freaking out about certain things and how to get through it. Coming from extroverted parents, it wasn't ever something I knew how to deal with when I was young. That's why conversations like this are so important. =)

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    1. *HIGH FIVES* KINDRED SPIRIT!! I'm so happy you like this post!! I actually agree with you 100% even on the shy thing... I think the opposite on confidence is insecurity, really. But I definitely agree that one can be shy in social situations yet very confident in who they are. :)

      It can be SO HELPFUL to discuss this stuff with people who understand/relate. Like you said, your parents are extroverted and so they probably can't resonate with the introvert struggle as much. WHICH IS WHY I LOVE STARTING DISCUSSIONS LIKE THIS. :') And I'm so glad you can relate!! *hugs* thank you for reading, Emily!

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  29. *sigh* This is why I don't really like taking Buzzfeed quizzes unless I literally just want to waste my time. Buzzfeed in general is super annoying save for occassional videos such as their natural hair, food and others.

    People always think that introverts can't be outgoing. I guess I can't really blame them because I didn't really discover this until recently (when I was 17. I'm 18 now so I guess I didn't discover this at a late age :P).

    I was shocked when I discovered that one of my favourite YouTubers, NigaHiga, was an introvert. I was also shocked to find out that he was almost as introverted as me. Then I started thinking: he is always around his group of friends which isn't big, he doesn't leave his house often, TONS OF YOUTUBERS ARE INTROVERTED, just because he doesn't mention that he's an introvert doesn't mean he isn't one.

    Also, hiii. This isn't the first time I've seen you (not being creepy, I PROMISE). I often see you on Twitter because of Aimee Meester and I think... Nichole? She retweets a lot of your stuff. I'm going to stick around for a long time. I skimmed through some of your other posts.

    Appreciation from Ireland <3 (It's hard for me to say 'I love you' despite being a INFP but I'm so cautious about feelings and stuff).

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    1. UGH YES HAHA BUZZFEED IS THE DOWNFALL OF THE MODERN WESTON WORLD HAHAHA :') Yes!! Introverts can absolutely be outgoing!! I hate how we are grouped into this cliche of "stay at home bc too afraid to go out and do things" UMMM???? NO???? *angry laughter*

      Yes!! I love what you said about YouTubers!! I definitely feel the same way about videos... like...I love them?? I love talking in front of a camera. WHY. Most people wouldn't guess that if they met me in real life, but...yeah. The introvert is a paradox, to say the least. ;)

      AW YAY I'M SO GLAD YOU'RE HERE GRACE!! *gives you waffles* haha my sister is an INFP so I completely understand... YOU WOULD LIKE A HUG WOULDN'T YOU *hugs* xD Thank you so much for reading, dear!!

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  30. Wow, wow. This needed to be said. Thanks, Abbiee. xx

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    1. Thank YOU, Jessica!! <3333

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  31. PLEASE DO THE POST ON HOW TO BE CONFIDENT! :D I would love reading that. I've alllways struggled with self confidence, though over the past few years, God has really helped me conquer some of those fears and doubts. I'm not even sure I would classify myself as an unconfident person anymore, though I certainly have "moments". ;)

    PS. Just wanted to say, if you ever do want to share the story about your journey to confidence, I'd be interested in reading that post, too! xD (Haha, yes, I'm a curious person.)

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    1. NATALIE YOU ARE TOO KIND <3333 I'm SO GLAD you liked this post!! and I'm totally going to do a post on how to be more confident ;) Super stoked!! I can definitely relate to the struggle -- like I said, it's a journey for me, and I totally still have those "moments", too. *hugs* THANK YOU DEAR

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  32. WELL to say this post is awesome would not even do it justice :)) THIS IS A BEAUTIFUL POST, ABBIE. I'm an extrovert, BUT that does not mean I am the life of the party (lol hardly) or like...a super outgoing, constantly bubbly human bean. *ahem* I'm literally one of the quietest people I know (but my type is the closest to introverted so hahahahahaa), and I hardcore love what you said about confidence isn't just from being "outgoing." Quietest people have the loudest minds.

    AND AMEN. I hate, hate, HaTE when people call me shy. I'm a freaking extrovert, first of all lol (maybe I do have some confidence struggles sometimes...BUT STILL), and also, like...maybe I'd rather listen than talk?

    idk it's a struggle sometimes, but, yeah, just trying to stay focused on Jesus and draw confidence from Him, y'know? :D

    AMAZING POST, yo.

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    1. YAAAAAAAAAAAS *hugs you* I'M SO HAPPY YOU LIKED THIS POST AUTUMN!! AMEN TO EVERYTHING YOU SAID OMG. *nods in violent agreement* I always say "don't talk unless you can improve the silence" << SAVAGE BUT THAT'S ME LOLOLOL :') Mmm yes I agree 1000% -- Jesus is about as confident as it gets! And He gives us all the courage we could ever desire. *puts on cool shades*

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kind words are like raindrops on the desert. they make me bloom with happiness, as absolutely cliche and cheesy as that sounds. even if it's just a simple alt+3 i will heart you for it. so, go ahead! MAKE MY DAY. literally.