It’s Okay To NOT Be Independent (Why I Still Live With My Parents And Love Every Second Of It)


I had to add that tagline so you knew I wasn’t talking about politics. MUAHAHA NOPE I am very much a patriot and believe that the American Revolutionary War turned out better for everyone in the end. No, today I’m talking about the myths and lies that surround the terribly scandalous idea of living with your parents, preferably after the mature old age of eighteen years old. I had no idea I would be writing about this today, but good ole social media sparked the thought process: wow, a lot of young people still live with their parents and seem almost ashamed to mention it.

I’ll get my obnoxious opinion out in the open right away: YOU SHOULD NOT BE ASHAMED TO MENTION IT. We’ll talk about why exactly Dear Waffle Queen in a minute, BUT FIRST – I come to confess that I am one of these over-eighteen-year-olds who still lives with her parents. Want the details? Okay then but you’ll have to go without waffles. It’s either/or today I’M NOT FEELING VERY GENEROUS. Details or waffles? Details it is.

Society™ is something we hear mentioned a lot.* But what exactly is it? (Basically this.) Everyone following after each other’s example even to the extreme of having no idea why they are doing said thing in the first place. BUT LET’S JUST PRETEND FOR A SECOND that Society™ is a monster with small sharp teeth and a thirst for blood and waffles.**

Society™ is first of all probably disgusted by the fact that I live at the end of a little dirt road in the woods and I was homeschooled for the entirety of my small existence. BUT! There may be a small sliver of hope for me if I go to college. Society™ thinks I am bright and smart and I have Potential™ – I wouldn’t want to waste it on art. I ought to find a good job and a good man and adopt a dog and buy a house and have a family and pay taxes and be depressed by age thirty-two.


BUT I DON’T WANT ANY OF THAT. So Society™ concludes that I must be living with my parents – AKA huddled in the basement in an old recliner, writing this blog post and hoping to get through one more day of shirking household chores and waiting for Life™ to happen to me. (Because this plan makes a lot of sense.)

*At least I hear it mentioned a lot. In my house. By my own mouth. Because I’m a bit of a geek for psychology and the ultimate crumble of the world.
**Oh wait that’s me.

My friends probably think I have it made in the shade. (That is the friends who don’t get inside information from this blog muHAHAHA.) My friends probably imagine I am left alone in my very aesthetic bedroom to write books and music all day long – deigning only to the dinner table for food before returning to my art.

OR OR OR my friends think I have a boring secret day job and I’m just “trying to do music” or “trying to write a book” but lol it’s not going to make money because WHO MAKES MONEY DOING THAT?? Wait, did I say these people are my friends?? HAHA ALLOW ME TO CLARIFY.


Not to presume that my extended family thinks about me from one month’s end to another, but LET’S JUST PRETEND THEY DO. Half of them have no idea what my life is like. They probably think I’m in college with a boyfriend and a cat and a really pretty Instagram. And the other half who actually know a few things about me (that I sing, write, make waffles, etc.) probably assume that these things are more of hobbies than serious life choices. Basically, NOBODY KNOWS ME. But you will in a second.

I LIVE WITH MY PARENTS, OK?? I have never had an apartment, a “real job,” or a boyfriend – and I don’t plan on acquiring any of these items in the foreseeable future. My family runs their own business, which I am very involved in. (This is what we make if you’re curious.) It’s not a nine-to-five like most kids my age work, but that doesn’t mean it’s less intense. Because I’ve learned a lot from being involved in graphic design, photography, web design, secretary work, packing and shipping, production, public relations, marketing, and so much more. Not to mention I can say my mom and dad are #BOSS in more ways than one. ;)

In addition to working with my parents, I write books, I compose music, and I blog (DUH.) I plan to make a long-term career out of these three things. AND NO, THAT IS NOT “CUTE.” I know what most people think when they hear me say stuff like this – it’ll never work out. But guess what? I’M GOING TO MAKE IT WORK OUT. Music and writing is not a hobby for me – it’s a future. And while I work on building the foundation of a career doing something I freaking love to do, I’m working an actual job at an actual business – I just happen to never leave my house/garage. 


SPOILER ALERT: it’s not. To be honest, it’s strange to be separated from your family. I remember once sitting in a hair salon listening to a conversation between two women sitting next to me. The first woman was describing how heart-wrenching it was for her to watch her daughter leave for college. I was expecting a pacifying “but you can’t hold onto them forever” to conclude the story, but instead she went on to say that her daughter was also sobbing as she left her mother and her home – crying about how she didn’t want to go to college. And I just sat there and thought…what?? 


HERE’S A GOOD IDEA: the mom doesn’t want the daughter to go to college and the daughter doesn’t want to go to college and they are both weeping as they part ways. UM…DARE I ASK IF WE ARE MISSING THE POINT?? Some kids are glad to leave home. Some parents are glad when their kids leave home. But if this isn’t you…why do everything the exact same way everyone else does? BECAUSE #SOCIETY OF COURSE.

Society™ is when we take our cues from the person on our left and the person on our right – we no longer look within ourselves to find the answer. We conform to the ways of others just so that we feel like we belong, all the while sabotaging our own beautiful brains thAT WERE BUILT TO, I DON’T KNOW, THINK FOR THEMSELVES?? Just because everyone else is doing something doesn’t make it right.

My family loves me and I love my family. I can’t imagine ever leaving home because I am perfectly content with my life. THAT IS NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF, MY FRENS. Does this mean I plan on NEVER being financially independent? Not at all. Despite my good British blood avoiding all talk of money, it would be pretty freaking cool to make a buck or two off my writing and music career. BECAUSE MONEY DOES THINGS FOR SURE. But it is certainly not the key to happiness. Don’t delude thyself.

And to the kids who are going to college and getting “real jobs” – I think I speak for everyone when I say: GOOD FOR YOU!! As long as you’re doing it because you want to and not because someone is pressuring you to live a certain way. Do what serves YOU, not what serves Society™.

But today I’m speaking for the people like me who still live with their parents and aren’t sure whether or not this is something to be proud of – because it’s really sad how many young adults still feel like “kids” just because they aren’t financially independent. IT’S RIDICULOUS. IT STEALS HAPPINESS AND IT STEALS PRIDE AND IT NEEDS TO BE STOPPED. All of y’all out there like me – don’t be ashamed of living with your parents. Enjoy them. Enjoy your life!! Financial independence might not be as fun as you predict it to be. It’s okay to be dependent on someone else. It’s okay to be loved and cared for by someone else. Maybe that’s exactly what they need to keep going: YOU. 

I know, I’m getting all fiery today. I CAN’T HELP IT. What do you guys think? Do you still live with your parents? Are you frowned upon because of it? Or do you feel like it makes you “immature” or something?? SPOILER: it doesn’t. How are you going to rebel against Society™ today? And are you sad you chose details > waffles?? YOU SHOULD BE.

love,
abbiee

36 comments

  1. Ah, Abbieeee this is so timely. I was just bemoaning to my mother last night that I felt so unfulfilled because I don't have a "real job" or "do anything". Which is why I go nonstop from 6-9. Because I don't do anything. XD But this is an insecurity aggravated by the fact that so often well-meaning, older people(generally those with kids of grandkids in college) look at me quizzically and ask, "Are you in college?" And when I tell them no, they say, "Well...what is it that you do?" Which in turn leads me to duck my head, shrug, and mutter about running the paperwork for my dad's business and working with my horses. I don't mention that I want to open an equine rescue or that I'm writing a book because then come the, "How are you going to make money at that?!" questions.

    Like, one time I was attending a play and an old man sat down next to me in the lobby as we waited to be let into the theater. And he starts small talk.
    Him: How old are you? 18?
    Me: I'm 21
    Him: Are you in school?
    Me: No...
    Him: So, what are you doing? Just goofing off?

    Yeah. That was an awkward conversation that I quickly excused myself from.

    This is just such a lovely post. Because I think being a young person who still lives with her parents and isn't financially independent AND being a millennial has a tendency to make me feel ashamed(even though I shouldn't). Because millennials are the worst creatures to walk this planet, didn't you know??

    Anyway, I love this post, Abbie! Thank you for being you and giving the rest of us the bravery to be ourselves, too!

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    1. I'M SO GLAD THIS RESONATED WITH YOU. <3 uGH YES I TOTALLY GET YOU and I've been there so many times and it's sooo aggravating!! Honestly, I feel bad for the people (like 99% of the population) who are so shortsighted all they can see is the financial aspect of something. SO WHAT IF YOU GOT A 9-5 JOB AND YOU WERE MISERABLE?? How does that serve the world or help anyone?? it's ridiculous.

      WOW THAT DIALOGUE. *shakes head* People can be so rude. The struggle is definitely real. :') LOL OH YES MILLENNIALS ARE THE BANE OF HUMANITY TBH. We should be illegal. xD eeeep ASDFGHJKL I'M SO HAPPY YOU LIKE THIS POST YOUR COMMENT MADE MY DAY <33333 *hugs you a lot*

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  2. You're so inspiring, Abbie, and it's true everyone's situation is different, and that means that there isn't one set life plan for everyone to go down. I think not many people realize that, though, which is why we see so many generically manufactured, unhappy people in this world. I'm in college because I know that it is what I need to get to do what I love and am passionate about, but I don't hold college up on a pedestal and believe that everyone should attend. I think you are ambitious and know what you're doing, and I greatly admire the fact that you are comfortable and happy with where you are at home.
    Great post as per usual, Abbie! :)

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    1. HANNAH THIS COMMENT PUT A HUGE SMILE ON MY FACE. <333 I agree with you 100% and it's awesome that you're pursuing your dreams. SERIOUSLY IF EVERYONE WAS LIKE YOU THIS WORLD WOULD BE BEAUTIFUL. Because college has become something it totally is not -- a social pressure instead of a place of learning and opportunity. And it's sad tbh. BUT I'M SO HAPPY YOU LIKED THIS POST THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING!! :'''')

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  3. "I know what most people think when they hear me say stuff like this – it’ll never work out. But guess what? I’M GOING TO MAKE IT WORK OUT." YES you go girl! Thrive to make your hobbies and passions your future there is nothing more worthy than that!

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    1. ASDFGHJKL THANK YOU VANESSA!! You're so encouraging and awesome *hugs you a lot* Thank you for reading!!

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  4. Wow! Do you's actually make those stained glass things? They're really neat! And this was a nice post! I plan on eventually making a full-time income writing too. Mostly blogging. Sometimes I get down and think maybe it won't work, but I think if I just keep trying it eventually will pay off. And it's not like I need a bunch of money now; I still live at home too. Well, have a good day!
    -Laura
    PS. My blog is having a gold+silver mermaid pillow giveaway that you're welcome to check out!

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    1. EEEP yes we do! The business has been in my family for about twenty years, now. It's pretty cool. I'm so happy this post resonated with you, Laura!! <3 YOU HAVE A FABULOUS DAY YOURSELF. :)

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  5. Kudos to you for saying this Abbie!! I know I do plan on moving out and going to college and living in a dorm after high school because of my circumstances with family, but if you're happy to stay at home after high school THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. Great post as usual :)

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    1. Thank you so much, Veronica! Your kind words mean a lot to me. <333 I agree 110% everyone has different needs and we all need to listen a bit more. :) Thank you for reading!

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  6. ABBIEE YOU ARE THE MIND-READING BOSS. I've been thinking so much about my future and where I want to go and what I want to do. My parents said the other day that if I want to stick around and learn my dad's business, I am welcome to do that. And honestly, I AM NOT ASHAMED OF THAT. I think it would be awesome to have their wisdom and knowledge and support for years to come. But if I do end up "going," then I know that they'll still support me anyway. This post made my day bc I'm so glad other people feel this way

    (btw, WHAT YOUR FAMILY MAKES IS SO GORGEOUS OH MY GOSH)

    <3

    audrey caylin

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    1. ASDFGHJKL AUDREY TBH IT'S MAKING ME SO HAPPY TO SEE Y'ALL RESONATING WITH THIS because I was feeling kind of alone myself and then I was like "there must be more kids with this struggle." *HUGS YOU A LOT* I'M SO HAPPY YOU CAN RELATE TO THIS. And seriously that's so awesome that your parents are so supportive. AND SO AWESOME THAT YOU'RE FOLLOWING YOUR HEART ON THIS INSTEAD OF THAT MONSTER SOCIETY. :') Aw, I'm glad you like the hanging water gardens too!! <3 Thank you so much for reading and commenting!! YOU'RE THE BOMB. ;)

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  7. I liiiike this post so much I may sob. :') I do live with my parents still, but part of mine is health thingies too unfortunately but also I need them in my life so far?! Like I'm in my early twenties but not EVERYONE is ready to go leave home at the same time and go out and do all the things. And the way society condemns/judges just really sucks. Like I feel I have to constantly remind people how much I work. And just because it's "working from home" and a lot of it isn't fully paid yet, doesn't make it any less work!! Omg sometimes I'll be working at 11pm at night because FYI to society = people who work from home are incredibly dedicated often work more hours than a 9 - 5 job just to try and make it work!! So YAS I LOVE THIS POST AND I COULDN'T AGREE MORE. I think it's epic of you're 18 and want to go to college and leave home and have your own life. And I think it's epic if your'e 18 and work with/for your parents and live at home and are pursuing what makes you happy. <3

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    1. CAAAAIIIT YOU WERE ONE OF THE PEOPLE WHO INSPIRED THIS POST HONESTLY. <3 I'M SO HAPPY YOU LIKE IT!! *hugs* "And the way society condemns/judges just really sucks." <<< oh my goodness yes you can say that again. *sighs* BUT Y'KNOW IT WILL BE EVEN MORE OF A SURPRISE ATTACK WHEN WE ALL CONQUER THE WORLD FROM THE COMFORT OF OUR OWN HOMES SO... hehe ;) and long hours omg yes!! People who work from home definitely have TONS of dedication. I couldn't have said it better than you did in this here comment. <333 THANK YOU FOR READING BRO *gives u waffles*

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  8. Wonderful post, Abbie! I loved your perspective on it -- people really shouldn't judge you for staying at home with your parents. I do have goals to go to a top-tier university (hopefully XD), but everyone should totally respect each others' choices. I personally feel like I need the shove to get out into the big scary world and start doing things on my own, but meh. It's a personal choice, guys. XD

    ALSO WHAT EVEN THOSE THINGS YOUR FAMILY SELLS ARE SO BEAUTIFUL OMG

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    1. YES RIGHT ON SARAH! And good for you going out and chasing your dreams!! That's the way to do it, bro. *adjusts cool sunglasses* I strongly believe that what we do should be driven from a need in our souls. <333 AW THANK YOU SO MUCH I'm so happy you like the hanging water gardens! EEEP. :)

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  9. I REALLY REALLY REALLY LOVE THIS POST---THANK YOU. <3

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    1. ASDFGHJKL I'M SO HAPPY OMGGG <3333

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  10. I do still live with my parents, because I LOVE MY FAM but also because I'm 17 and a minor...But I do want to go to college and be independent someday.

    LOVE THIS POST!!! <33

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    1. WAY TO GO YOU <333 seriously follow your dreams, girl -- you're fabulous. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING! :')

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  11. Oh this is so beautiful!!! I really love the message you're trying to send. I think that family is SUPER important. Society's views on people living at home with their parents is that you can't support yourself and you're poor and living off of your parents' income. Um, just because you live with those you love doesn't mean you work or anything??? I'm currently a minor (wahoo) so I HAVE to live with my parentes. I plan on going to college, but I'm not sure if I'll live with them afterwards. I'll just see where life takes me! (And BTW that last part about doing what you love as a job no matter what is BEAUTIFUL and I connect with it a lot because I love to write and it's my dream that one day I could do that as a job. Many people, including my parents, have said that it'll be hard to make money off of it, but I just want to do what I love. <3)

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    1. EEEEP THANK YOU MAY THAT MEANS SO MUCH TO ME OMG. :''') I agree 100% and totally promote seeing where life takes you!! That's the best way to live tbh -- ADVENTUROUSLY YO. <3 asdfghjkl i'm so happy that last part spoke to you. I feel that on such a deep level omg. IT'S LIKE AMBITION IS "IMMATURE" THESE DAYS?? WHAT EVEN????? So huge high fives for you, dude. GO CHASE THEM DREAMS DOWN. you got this. ;)

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  12. I love when you write opinion posts like this! You so insightfully and bluntly address topics that aren't being discussed most other places, and it's always an interesting read.

    I definitely plan to leave home, go to as much college as I can afford, and get a "real" job (hopefully as a political consultant or strategist!). I'm an only child, so my parents have focused their attention 24/7 on me for all of my 16 years. Although I love them, it is quite tiring - and although I love where I live, I think I'd love living in DC even more. That's just how I am, though - I always like exploring, finding new places and experiencing as many different things as I possibly can. I don't see any problem with people who want to stay with their parents doing that (as long as, like you, they either have a plan or are genuinely trying to figure one out.) I don't tend to approve of people who stay at home out of pure laziness, but if it's for financial, career, or other reasons, that's completely your choice! I don't have any right to force you into a lifestyle you don't want, as long as both you and your parents are good with you staying at home. :)

    Ellie | On the Other Side of Reality

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    1. EEEEP THANK YOU ELLIE I'M SO HAPPY YOU LIKE THIS POST!! :D Seriously that means so much to me omgggg. *gives you waffles* Good for you chasing your dreams!! And that's totally awesome that you know what you want to do and where you want to go. SUPER INSPIRING, YO! And I totally agree -- laziness is definitely not cool. But everyone has different needs, it's impossible to squish everyone into the same standard "life u should live" box and that's what's so frustrating to me....ugh. :P BUT EEP THANK YOU FOR READING!!

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  13. Going to college, getting married, moving away from home, starting and finishing grad school, getting a day job...I did all of that in the past 5 years. And every step of it was terrifying, to the point that I became pretty depressed the summer that I got married. Which...is not the way it's supposed to go! I felt pressured to "adult" and grow up as quickly as possible, and it all happened too fast for me. (Not saying I regret any of it; I just regret not taking more time between steps.) So in that sense, I agree with you.

    At the same time, I think it can be dangerous to only do things when you want to. Part of growing up is learning that you have to do things that you don't want to. Looking back, it was good for me to get out of my parent's house at 19, even if I didn't want to at the time. It caused me to break away from the bubble of my home town, experience new things and meet new people, and find myself and my own values. It's easy to not want to break away from comfort or something that you've known all your life, but it can also be beneficial in the end.

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    1. Thanks for reading, Emily!! I'm happy this resonated with you. :) I agree, there are benefits to embarking on an adventure outside of your comfort zone...and also some situations that seem unhappy do turn out alright in the end. But I feel like everyone needs to find that place where their comfort zone ends (because it will be a different case for everyone) and reach for their hearts desire even when it is uncomfortable. If I've learned anything from chasing my dreams, it's that it is freaking hard and freaking painful sometimes. But I consider myself blessed to be surrounded by my family, who give me support, tough love and guidance through the struggles. However, that's just me -- like I said in the post, it's different for everyone. :) Thank you for commenting! <3

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  14. Bless you and this post.

    I know I mentioned to you in my last comment on your blog that I too was someone who worked in my family's business and yes, that means I live at home. I will be 20 this summer and still living at home until a month after my birthday when I get married, but that is beside the point. For now and the first two years of adulthood, I will have lived at home. And yes, you're not the only one who gets flak for it like, good grief, what is wrong with living at home for a few years after reaching the magical age of 18? If you have no real desire/need to be totally independent before then, who cares? I like living at home cause I get to stay in the country and stay with my family and be in a comfortable, familiar place. I pretty much knew exactly how my 20's were going down before I was eighteen because of my plans to marry my boyfriend and his college plans so there was absolutely no point in moving out before that and spending money on rent in a place that I'd probably hate in the city that I'd probably hate to live alone which I'd probably also hate as much as I say I wouldn't. I'm perfectly content to be here until my wedding and will probably miss being here a lot even afterwards. My fiancee lives at home as well, he's the same magical adult age as me and goes to magical college and has a magical mostly normal job so by all rights he SHOULD be moved out but nope. He's at home. And I think we'll both be really happy for that in the long run.
    So yes, amazing post, Abbiee. I shall share it with the world as a passive-aggressive side-eye to the friends of mine who thought it was stupid of me to still live at home as an "adult". Thank you for that grand opportunity. XD Keep shining!

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    1. NO NO BLESS YOU EMILY. YOU KIND OF INSPIRED THIS POST TBH. <3 Because I was thinking about how I've met quite a few young adults who live with their parents and I'm like... maybe I should write about this. :') It's rather near and dear to my heart. EEP GOOD FOR YOU!! SERIOUSLY THAT'S AWESOME. (Also so EXCITING OMG you're getting married?!?! *tosses confetti*) And kudos to your fiancee for also being awesome. SERIOUSLY THIS IS SO RIDICULOUS THIS "MOVE OUT UR 18 OMGGG U OLD ADULT PERSON HOW DARE U STILL LIVE AT HOME" and asdfghjkl I'm so happy you like this post and are gonna kindly throw it at people and YES THIS COMMENT PUT A HUGE SMILE ON MY FACE THANK YOU <3 *hugs*

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  15. Love this post. Thank you for this. I'm so glad someone else is in the same boat. I live with my parents, and I'm older than 18. I'm more like...closer to 22, but who's counting? I have a really good relationship with them, and we have an arrangement worked out really well, but man, sometimes it's hard to block out society who thinks it's such a terrible thing. Like...I'm wasting my life or being a baby or something. Gah.

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    1. My parents don't have a business or anything like that (really wish they did, though), but my mom does have medical issues that aren't totally debilitating but still causes periods where she can't do a lot. If I wasn't here during those times, I don't know who would be able to help her. She probably wouldn't let me use that as any kind of excuse, but maybe this is why I am here?

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  16. This so so true!!! It's really weird that people's think it's bad to live with your parents after you are 18!!! Gosh they are you parents!!
    That being said, I want to leave home pretty soon after I'm 18, but only because I want to go to college and become a governess and I kind of have to leave home in order to do that! On one hand, I understand kids wanting to leave as soon as possible, parents are So what they are supposed to be!! (Aka caring, sheltering, loving, strict, annoying) and kids are what they are supposed to be: (ridiculous, needy, independent, snarky, and annoying) it's life. But like you say there is this shame in living with your parents SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM AND YOU WANT TO????!?!?!?!?!? EW!!!!?!
    Um. Excuse me. No.
    Anyways, I mostly commented because I have some questions for you, but I thought I might as well talk about what this post is actually ABOUT before I drown you with questions. Sound good?? Good. *Hands you waffles* yes that is a bribe.
    So, I really love to sing, and I want to do so professionally, but there is the problem of being a poor child in a family of 13 who are poor because we're missionaries.
    So... My problem is, I want to be able to record and video songs and put them on YouTube for you lovely people to peruse, but I don't have any equipment whatsoever and even less knowledge of how to do it!!!
    I know you have lots to do, and I'm sure you are super busy, but would you mind giving me some pointers??? I would be IMMENSELY GRATEFUL!!! And if there's ever anything I can do for you, please PLEASE let me know!!!!!
    I basically want to know the dos and don'ts and any advice you might have for me!
    I'm sorry I am asking so much, you really don't have to do it if you don't want to.
    Thank you so much for being so freaking amazing!!
    Oh, if you'd like to send me an email I can give my email to you. I did already in a comment on a different post but I can give it again if you'd like.
    Abbie, this is not flattery, this is true: you have inspired me so so so much. You have made me want to sing better and more you have made me want to blog and vlog better and more. I am more honored being friends with you than if I knew... I don't know, some REALLY famous person! Honestly.

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  17. I'm one of those people who, when someone tells me to do something, I find a way to not want to do it. And that's basically what happened to me with the whole college thing. I couldn't stop griping and groaning about it. "Why does everyone say you only get a life if you go to college? You will only have any chance at future if you go to college?" It just drove me crazy. But after a while, things started settling and I realized I actually /did/ want to go to college. I love my family, but I am ready to leave home, and having been home-schooled all my life and largely self taught, I have a strong thirst for learning in a class setting and having teachers and living on campus and making new friends and exploring the world and myself more. You made such a good point in this post though. Just because college is the norm doesn't mean it is for everyone, and that anyone who doesn't do it is a failure at life. THAT'S MESSED UP. >:( *slaps Society with fishes*

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  18. Its sad but I think so many people fall into the conformity of society - happy to hear you're breaking the mould! I'm 27 and right now all my friends are buying houses, having kids or getting married. That's not a box I want to fit into. I'm too busy travelling the world, writing and having a great time with nothing to tie me down! At the end of the day - when we are old and grey - I want to be able to look back on happy memories - not endless days of doing things I didnt want to just because society says I should!

    Anyway really great post - I hope it inspires more than a few people to listen to what they actually want as opposed to what the world says they should be doing!

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  19. Your posts are just the bomb dot com, yo. I totally resonate with this - I'm 23 and moving out soonish but I still live with my parents! I felt ashamed about it for the longest time, but I don't know why...my family and I have such a rich relationship, and I wouldn't trade these precious years for anything. I love how counter-culture your perspective is. It sounds like your parents really nourished you in your education and upbringing, and that's so cool that you help them run a business! I think the life of an entrepreneur and artist definitely appeals to me. I work at an office at my university and I'm already tired of working for "The Man." This was inspiring! Go change the world! :)

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kind words are like raindrops on the desert. they make me bloom with happiness, as absolutely cliche and cheesy as that sounds. even if it's just a simple alt+3 i will heart you for it. so, go ahead! MAKE MY DAY. literally.