"You Are Throwing Away Your Life." (And 10 Other Pleasant Assumptions People Make About Artists)


Artists are rare birds. They stick up like rebellious nails on the otherwise smooth surface of society. Artists are awesome, because they go after their dreams and create stuff with an inspired and open mind. (AKA: WE NEED MORE ARTISTS IN THE WORLD. OMG.) But every once in a while, a non-artist will snag their toe on a rebellious nail and promptly unleash their judgement. IT’S NOT A PRETTY SIGHT, SIR.

The thing is this: everyone is born an artist. I believe that we have all been given talents; sketching, singing, writing, speaking, interior design, urban mural painting, blogging, poetry, whatever! Some of us discover them at a young age, some of us discover them at an older age, and some of us don’t discover them ever (which is really heartbreaking.) It’s not that people don’t like us – it’s just really rare to see someone actual tackle their talents and pursue arts. Especially in a society that revolves around money and getting a nice job and buying a nice house and marring a nice human and adopting a nice dog. There’s nothing wrong with that; but this lifestyle is not for everyone. And as one of those people who wants to cheerfully take the road not-yet-invented, I receive that look from people. The “ouch who left that nail sticking up like that” look. And then the victim of my presence says something.  IN FACT, THEY SEEM TO HAVE A SMALL ARSNEAL OF DEPRECIATION READY AND WAITING FOR THIS KIND OF ENCOUNTER. Let’s go over some of them now. 



Yes. Why yes sir, I just clicked and dragged my life right to that cute little garbage bin icon and emptied the trash and it was like “ARE YOU SURE” and I was like “YES.”* Are you saying this because you really care what I do with my life?? OR ARE YOU JUST JEALOUS OF HOW BRAVE I AM? Yes, what I’m choosing to pursue might fall through the floor. EVERYTHING COULD GO WRONG.** But that’s the thing about artists: we live on the edge, uncertain of our success, because we love what we do. (Pro tip: more often than not, the person telling you that “you are throwing away your life” is unhappy with their life.)

* if you know who said this i love you
** literally everything. like i probably have the ability to start the apocalypse so maybe you should go to costco and get some canned goods. 


Because we all know that making music, poetry, books, or anything else is not a real job at all. WE ALL KNOW THAT THE MONEY HAS TO COME FROM SOMEWHERE. And it sure as heck isn’t coming from this little…side hobby thing. And we also know that nobody can be happy without money. This question is such a joke, I can’t even spend another second of my precious time thinking about it.

I UNDERSTAND WHY SOMEONE WOULD ASK THIS QUESTION I REALLY DO. But what I don’t understand is the response I get when I say, “No…I’m just doing my own thing.” It’s like they had some tiny shard of hope for you – because if you’d learned about your art in college, it would be worth more than if you were just naturally gifted with something cool. I DON’T UNDERSTAND THIS CONCEPT. There’s nothing wrong with college – but college is not for everyone. You should do what you love. EL PERIODO.


WELL THAT IS REALLY DISAPPOINTING. Because did you know that I am actually your son?? YES SIR. I AM. We have the same talent, we make the same art, we are one in the same and therefore WE ARE BOTH GOING TO FAIL MISERABLY. And your son had to get a part time job to support himself, you say?? SHHH SPOILER ALERT! YOU’RE RUINING THE SURPRISE OF MY FAILURE.

Now this isn’t something that is so much said as it is thought (unless you’re a completely nasty turnip of fiery judgement.) Yes, as a matter of fact, I have not moved out of my parents’ house and I don’t intend to. That’s not because I don’t have the desire or ability to support myself – it’s because I HAPPEN TO HAVE REALLY AWESOME PARENTS WHO HAPPEN TO LIKE ME LIVING IN THEIR HOUSE. (I have no idea why??) If you’re creating fabulous art but you happen to be still living in the house you grew up in, THERE IS NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED ABOUT. Granted, you probably won’t get this comment thrown in your face verbally… but then YOU NEVER KNOW.


Did you really mean to say “good luck?” Or did you mean to say “omg you poor unsuspecting bean don’t yoU REALIZE THAT YOU’RE WHOLE WORLD IS GOING TO COME CRASHING DOWN AS SOON AS YOU ATTEMPT TO MAKE A LIVING OFF THIS “ART” THING?? Have fun while it lasts, I guess. But then do me a favor and go get a real job.

AHHH YES. BACK TO MONEY AGAIN. My dear human, let’s go through all the reasons why I won’t answer your perfidious question. The amount of money I make is a) none of your business, b) none of your business, and c) none of your business. Maybe I’m making more money than everyone! MAYBE I’M MAKING DIRT. Or maybe…just maybe I’m making myself happy. To be honest, the best way to answer this question is to ask said person, “How much money do you make??” And then proceed to die of awkward silence.


Like I said before, most people don’t discover their talents and become artists. That means when you’re like “Oh I write novels and poetry,” people don’t really know how to reply. THEY DON’T KNOW WHAT IT’S LIKE TO STAB THEMSELVES IN THE HEART 17,000 TIMES A DAY…AKA WHAT IT’S LIKE TO BE A WRITER. So they want you to do “normal things.” That’s fine – but if only our non-artist knew that she was actually an artist way deep down inside somewhere. WE COULD CREATE COOL STUFF AND HAVE A LOT TO TALK ABOUT. But instead? Um…yeah. Forever 21 is cool. I go there sometimes.


HUZZAH YOU HAVE MET A HUMAN WHO DOESN’T VOICE THEIR UNWELCOME OPINIONS. Buuuut they are most likely thinking any/all of the above responses to your impractical career choice.

First let’s talk about HOW RARE IT IS TO HEAR SOMEONE SAY THIS. But! It has happened to me more than once. Believe it or not, there are actually a few people out there who genuinely think it’s awesome that you’re blazing a new trail, following your dreams, and pursuing your art. Maybe they wish they had done something different with their lives. LET’S GIVE THESE PEOPLE MAJOR HUGS AND WAFFLES.

Hey you fabulous artist person you. Have you been pummeled with any of these questions? LET’S HEAR IT FOR THE ARTISTS. They are awesome and they make this world a more beautiful place. What other pleasant assumptions would you add to this list??

love,
abbiee




71 comments

  1. Thank you. Thank you so much for this. I've gotten comments like this all my life, so this post definitely cheered me up.

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    1. THIS IS THE KIND OF COMMENT I WRITE THESE KINDS OF POSTS FOR. <3 OMG. THANK YOU SO MUCH I AM SO HAPPY. *hugs and waffles* :')

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  2. Hahaha I love this post! You did a wonderful job of making something really irritating into something hilarious that can really help us artists see we are not alone (which since we like to hole up in said parents' house to make said art, it often feels that way.) I especially cracked up at the "how much money do you make?" xD

    On an entirely different note I love the font you used for the questions and just around your blog. It's so pretty! And so are the leaves and rose spacer thing. :)

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    1. "You did a wonderful job of making something really irritating into something hilarious that can really help us artists see we are not alone" <<< THISSS THIS IS THE REASON I WROTE THIS POST SO OMG THAT MAKES ME LEGIT SO HAPPY. *high fives* ARTISTS WIN. Also eeep thank you!! I have a small addiction to brush fonts and watercolor flowers and things. <3333

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  3. I love this I love this I love this.

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    1. Once, I told someone that I was Majoring in English at University and she LAUGHED IN MY FACE. I'm still not over it. This post is so needed.

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    2. LET ME AT THAT PERSON I WANNA UNLEASH MY FIERY UNICORN WRATH >>>>:D ugh. *major hugs for you* thank you so much bro <3

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  4. Oh my gosh, this post was beautiful XD I was honestly dying the entire time I read this. I'VE HEARD EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THESE. So accurate, my gosh.

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    1. ASDGKLKJHGFD GRACE ANNE I'M SMILING SO BIG RIGHT NOW THAT MAKES ME SO DARN HAPPY. :'''''') THANK YOU SO MUCH AHH

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  5. YES YES YES SO true!!! This is the story of my life..especially now that I'm at that awkward almost-graduated-but-not-yet stage and everyone wants to know why I don't have my life together.

    GAH I LOVE THIS SO MUCH THANK YOU ABBIEE!!! ♥

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    1. UGH MAN I CAN'T STAND THAT it's like remind me exactly why I should be expected to have my life together?? I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT MY LIFE RIGHT NOW. ugh. people can be so annoying. :') *HUGS* THANK YOU SO MUCH OH MY LAND

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  6. I want to hug this post. I love this post. I am now hugging this post. *hugs* I was just talking about this with someone the other day.
    "So you're really smart, what do you want to do with your life? Probably law or something, knowing you."
    "...Actually, I want to write and travel and possibly teach special needs."
    "But you're not going to make money doing that. What do you ACTUALLY want to do?"
    SINCE WHEN. DID MONEY DICTATE HOW HAPPY YOUR LIFE IS.
    And also the other things you said here that I'm not brave enough to say in person but I wish I was and I loved this post so much oh gosh.

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    1. gah thaNK YOU SO MUCH KATIE YOU MADE MY DAY. :') I'm so happy you can relate to this. The struggle is SO REAL. omg. WAAHHHT THAT CONVERSATION IS LEGIT EXACTLY WHAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT HERE OH MY WORD. Well I for one think it's totally AWESOME that you're interested in writing and travel and teaching special needs! You're gonna rock. I just know it. "SINCE WHEN. DID MONEY DICTATE HOW HAPPY YOUR LIFE IS." << oh my gosh YES. PREACH, GIRL. PREACH. <3

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  7. Omigosh, ACCURATE. We need more artists in the world.

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    1. GAH THANK YOU ABBY. Preach it. ;)

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  8. lol yeah whenever I say I want to be a writer people are always like, "Oh! That's nice!"

    And I'm like, Yeah, it is!

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    1. PSHH OMG YES. THAT REACTION. I KNOW WHAT U MEAN.
      *shakes head in dismay*
      *sighs loudly*
      :')

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  9. Haha wow it's so true. This world needs more artists who are bold in where they are going. Great post!!! :D

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    1. AMEN, ASHLEY. eeep thank you so much!! Artists win. ;)

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  10. Gah, so perfect. :D

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    1. OMG THANK YOU EMILY :'''')

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  11. asdfghjkl THIS POSTTTTT. I LOVETH IT SO MUCH. It's perfect and inspirational and just gah I want to do all the art and write all the things and live my life the way I want and answer fabulously to ignorant beans' ignorance and rude judgments of my fabulousness. THANK YOU.

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    1. asdfghjkl THANK YOU FOR THIS COMMENT. LIKE OMG. I'M SMILING SO BIG RIGHT NOW. <3 you slay, girl!! GO FORTH AND DO WHAT YOU LOVE. *much hugs and waffles because omg you're the kindest* :''''')

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  12. THIS. You go, Abbie. I hear every single one of these things so much. I just want to scream at them, "Sorry I'm actually following my dreams instead of IGNORING them!!!" (I never actually say this because if I did I would turn into an emotional mess and my credibility would fly out the window)

    But anyway, thank you so much for writing this, my friend. :)) This is the kind of stuff the world needs to hear.

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    1. MY FACE HURTS I'M SMILING SO MUCH RIGHT NOW. <3 y'all are so kind to me gahhh. *many hugs many waffles* OH MAN RIGHT??? I WANT TO SAY THAT TOO. wow. it's so true. #preach <3 GOSHIES THANK YOU MARY SHELLEY THANK YOU SO MUCH

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  13. Abbie, you just have this hilarious and fun blogging voice, and I love it. <3

    And yes to this post! I really haven't had any experience with this, because I'm actually not planning on making a career out of the different arts I love. BUT I RELATE TO THOSE WHO DO! I totally don't think it's wrong, it's just not the path I think God has for my life.

    Although I have chosen to go to college and pursue a degree, that's because I feel like I should do with my life... like it's what God wants me individually to do. It's not for everyone, and everybody's callings are different. If the person really feels moved by God to not go to college or to try and pursue their arts, then I think that's fine. :D

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    1. AND MAY I SAY THAT YOU ARE SUCH AN INCREDIBLE ARTIST. God has big things for you, I know it. <3

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    2. "Abbie, you just have this hilarious and fun blogging voice, and I love it." ok omg thank you for literally making my life <333333 THAT MEANS SO MUCH TO ME. I try I really do and sometimes I feel like a dry saltine cracker of blah. :''') so ahem. yes. THANK YOU.

      GO YOU EMILY!! I totally get you. And I think it's awesome that you're going to college and getting a degree because that's what you want to do! THAT'S EXACTLY HOW IT SHOULD BE. OMG. YES. Because there's so much pressure today for people to go to college because they "should" and not because they want to. POWER TO YOU, GIRL. FOLLOW THEM DREAMS. <3

      omgomgomgomg that extra comment at the bottom there... my heart. :'''''') *hugs you a lot* THANK YOU. AND DITTO OMG. YOU SLAY. WE SLAY TOGETHER. OK? AWESOME. ALSO ALSO: idk if you'll check back and see this, but can you give me your blog link?? my computer is being a fish and I can't get onto your Google page. -_-

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    3. Aw, glad it made you happy. <3 It's true.

      Hehe... it wasn't your computer that was flunking... I don't actually have a blog. Maybe one day! :P For now I satisfy myself by interacting with all the lovely humans who do have blogs. *nods* But I do want to start one one day!

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    4. Ah okay!! Thank you Emily dear! OMG YOU'RE SO KIND I CANNOT EVEN. :'''') *all da hugs*

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  14. Abbie, you just have this hilarious and fun blogging voice, and I love it. <3 >>>Yes, Emily. Yes.

    DUDE ALL THESE THINGS ARE SO TRUE AND THE ANSWERS YOU WROTE WERE
    SPOT
    ON.

    I died.

    Although I am still a very young watermelon and for a few more months I can't even legally get a "real" job, these are still relevant. When I tell people I want to pursue music they just look at me like, "Ahh. Okay. Um. Cool dream, kid." Besides the people that KNOW I'm meant to do this everyone is like that^^

    Because when you say you want to go in to music they automatically think you have to become the next Taylor Swift. NO. I WANT TO TRAVEL THE WORLD AND MAKE MUSIC ALONG THE WAY AND I WANT TO WORSHIP IN CHURCHES AND DO SMALL GIGS AT COFFEE SHOPS. I don't desire the money or the fame *starts singing NTB now* I just want to do what I love and what I know I'm called to do.

    YOU ARGUMENT IS INVALID!

    okay rant over bye

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    1. MUAH ALLIYAH YOU ARE TOO KIND TO ME I DON'T DESERVE YOUR GRACIOUS SWEET WORDS. :'''''') *much hugs* THANK YOU SO MUCH SDFGHJK like eeeep. "Ahh. Okay. Um. Cool dream, kid." BRO YAS. *screams and points violently at this quote* THIS!! MAKES!! ME!! ANGRY!! omg. so angry. but you relate to the struggle so that helps I guess. :')

      HAHAHA YES AND THAT TAYLOR SWIFT STANDARD. wow yes. not every singer looks up to her?? LOLOLOLOL. ahem. But yes I totally get you and theRE ARE SO MANY DIFFERENT WAYS TO MAKE MUSIC A LIVING NOW ESPECIALLY WITH THE INTERNET. like I see myself being more of a YouTube artist/the occasional whirlwind tour of awesomeness, but that's certainly not the only way to do music or be successful with it!! LIKE...WE HAVE OPTIONS. AND MONEY AND FAME IS NOT WHERE THE LIFE IS FOUND. PREEEEACH.

      IT'S ALL RIGHT IT'S ALL RIGHT IT'S ALL RIGHT IT'S ALL RIGHT NOW *bam bam bam* ok i'm done love u

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    2. YES YE SYESBNKJNcuDZSIJDihsabdfsjoisaheiaowD to all of this wow ye sjdisadfjcndhbajcsdbhzfn done

      *TRUMPETS* WOOO *TRUMPETS* WOOO *TRUMPETS*

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  15. THIS. SO MUCH THIS.

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    1. THANK YOU BRO :''''')

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  16. AHH ABBIEE YEEEEEEESSSSSS. There's a whole lot of things in this I agree with. Especially about the college thing! NO WE DON'T ALL HAVE TO GO TO COLLEGE BYE. That's what I'm like. Art is so so so important to me, and I know that whatever I do with my life, whatever that may be, will involve art. Good points. Love the sarcasm.

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    1. "NO WE DON'T ALL HAVE TO GO TO COLLEGE BYE. That's what I'm like" <<< OMG MAGGIE YES SAAAAME. It's like...we have OPTIONS. There isn't just one way to live?? ugh. people. *shakes head in dismay* I'M SO HAPPY YOU LIKE THIS AND CAN RELATE TO THIS. :'''') your comment made me smile so much. <3

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  17. yES YES AND IT CAN BE SO DEPRESSING. Also one I hate is "oh I wish I had the free time to do that". I get that at least once a week on the internet actually. Like people see HALF THE PICTURE and think that artists spend their time lying around reading/writing/arting and chilling basically. Like noooooo. *breaks a plate* We do TONS OF STUFF and it's not all cupcakes and aesthetically pleasing coffee shops with a nice laptop and tons of inspiration. The artist life is hard, honestly. WE NEED MORE APPRECIATION FOR SURE. And understanding would be nice.😂

    Also I'm with you on not going to college and living at home. Like omg Abbie sometimes I swear we are twins. *hi fives* I reeeally hate the stigma that if you're out of highschool and still living at home, then you're like a barnacle of loafing. GAH. So basically all humans need to stop judging each other. That would fix like mostly everything in the world.😂

    THIS POST IS EXCELLENT BUT ALL YOUR POSTS ARE SO YES.

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    1. WOW YES THE FREE TIME THING. OMG. PREACH IT. That is sooo true. iT'S LIKE YES HAHA MY LIFE LOOKS SO RELAXING AND PUT TOGETHER AND ALL I DO IS HAVE FUN BUT LOOKS ARE DECEIVING MY FREN. (dang i'm really wishing i'd included this one now... xD) WE REALLY DO WE NEED SO MUCH APPRECIATION. :'''')

      like yes we probably are twins *high fives back* i'm totally ok with that. ;) LIVING AT HOME >>>>> ANYWHERE ELSE. Like...there are so many benefits omg. YESSSSS. IT'S LIKE LOL OF COURSE THERE ARE SOME LAZY PEOPLE LIVING WITH THEIR PARENTS BUT THERE ARE SOME LAZY PEOPLE NOT LIVING WITH THEIR PARENTS SO NOW WHAT. xD goshies yes if only everyone stopped being so judgy and finger-pointy. :') ASDFGHJKL THANK YOU SO MUCH DUDE BUT YOU'RE THE ONE WITH THE EXCELLENT POSTS <3 :'''')

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  18. SAME THO!!! Okay, so I didn't know whether to be mad or sad or laugh, so I'm just going to be all the things. XD I'm not technically trying to make it in the professional world as an artist. I am technically going to college. But just the same, I can feel people judging me for my major. I get the "Oh, my son tried to major in English too; he's still paying off student loans. Teaching/Writing doesn't make a lot of money."
    You know what? If I can pay for ramen and a tiny little apartment and still do the stuff I love, I DON'T CARE!!! The world needs the artists and teachers and writers and musicians and dreamers just as much as it needs doctors and engineers and physics teachers. It's like a yin and yang thing. Neither one is superior and we both need each other.
    Okay, wow, I totally ranted there, but whatevs. I guess what I mean to say is A) SO MUCH YESSSS!!! and B) Thank you for this post. Goodness knows we creative folks need some inspiration and a kind word of encouragement from time to time. <3

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    1. "Okay, so I didn't know whether to be mad or sad or laugh," <<< ME WHILE WRITING THIS POST THO. honestly it seems like majoring in English is looked upon almost the same way artists are looked upon so I FEEL U. *hugs and much waffles* LIKE....JUST BECAUSE IT DIDN'T WORK OUT FOR YOUR SON DOESN'T MEAN IT WON'T WORK OUT FOR ME. Gosh. Such discouragement from so many people it's not fun. :''''(

      "You know what? If I can pay for ramen and a tiny little apartment and still do the stuff I love, I DON'T CARE!!!" <<< WHOA WOW YES PREEEEACH ITTTT. This whole comment is golden omg. Can I just like print out your comment and frame it on the wall because it is SO. RIGHT. ON. YES!!! *air punch* you get this, Liz. :') I'M SO HAPPY THIS POST WAS INSPIRING TO YOU. THAT MEANS SO MUCH EEEP. <3333

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  19. I've got them all. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM! Although I am going in college, people are like, what can you do with that major and I'm just like I dunno, I just really like reading and writing.

    Especially with the money thing, like I don't have to support YOU anyway so leave me alone and let me live my life how I (and God) want to!

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    1. wow yessss Taïsha YOU ARE SO RIGHT ON!! *nods violently and gives you waffles* And it's a similar issue how different college majors are looked upon as "not important" like... UGH. WHY CAN'T PEOPLE JUST NOT COMMENT ON OUR LIVES??? Hahaha and yes omg exactly: you don't have to support them! Thank you so much for reading and commenting!! <33333

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  20. Ah, this is painfully true. I think people just don't realize that art is something that's so important and so so concrete? And they don't really realize that...you need artists. And they see/appreciate the work of artists all the time. Some talented writer had to write their favorite show/movie/book. Someone did those wonderful paintings in the museum or on walls, or animated that lovely Disney movie they adore, and just...it's concrete, and it's important, and really, being an artist is one of the most important jobs in my opinion because art is a HUGE aspect of forming culture. And it's sad that people don't acknowledge that.

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    1. WOW YES PREACH IT AIMEE. *nods and sits back and relishes in the perfection that is your comment* Honestly I have no words to reply to this because YOU ARE SO RIGHT ON. SO RIGHT ON. <3 wow. yes. just yes.

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  21. Your sarcasm is my new favorite thing AND THIS POST WAS THE BEST EVER.

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    1. ASDFGHJKL THANK YOU SO MUCH HANNAH LIKE BRB RECOVERING FROM THIS COMMENT IT HAS MADE MY DAY. :''''')

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  22. man this is so good man. so good. oh man. its good.

    and you know what makes this even better?

    all these comments man.

    these people/your fab readers get it.
    you get it.
    this is it, man.
    I love.

    and so basically after reading thru this fabulous, spot on, amazing, wonderful post, and then thru all the awesome awesome awesome comments.
    and I really don't have anything to say.
    because you and everyone else has already said it so very very well.

    so yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah
    THIS.

    yeah.

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    1. Literally before I went in to reply to any of these comments I read this comment and I just had this huge smile on my face and tbh I don't think it has left my face since. ASDFGHJKL THANK YOU SO MUCH DO YOU EVEN KNOW HOW MUCH YOUR KIND WORDS MEAN TO ME?? :''''') *hugs you forever*

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  23. Yes, I like your initial analogy about artists being the stubborn nails that sometimes people stumble over. (After all, that might be part of our job, right? To help people notice the things they forgot existed.)

    And all those points are so relatable. I feel like I've heard versions of all of them, and I'm not even that way out with my career and hobby choices. (But some people obviously think so.) Anyway, this was enjoyable, Abbiee, and keep on inventing your road, and singing your songs, and sticking up for art. xx

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    1. JESSICA THANK YOU SO MUCH THIS COMMENT HAS BROUGHT A HUGE SMILE TO MY FACE. :D *hugs and waffles* wow yes it's so true. We need more appreciation and understanding. *nod nod* <3333 thank you so much for reading!!

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  24. Basically all the reactions I get when I say I want to become an editor. (P.S. no one's ever told me that's so cool). Editor's are also in the same category, kinda sorta, right?!

    *Sigh*

    Also, I'm doing computer science engineering cuz PARENTS AND SOCIETY AND WHAT NOT

    Ultimately, I've decided my life goal: get married, stay at home, read books and blog all day long.

    (Also, I'm having to choose the option anonymous cuz it says my OpenID credentials could not be verified. why universe why)

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    1. WELL BRACE YOURSELF BECAUSE IT'S GONNA HAPPEN RIGHT NOW: You want to be an editor?? THAT IS SO COOL. *confetti and waffles* like seriously I actually think that is fabulous. because EDITORS ARE AMAZING. And we need them in the world because they are a very important backbone of sooo many things. *nod nod* also computer science engineering sounds uber fascinating!! omg. ur life plan sounds like legit #goaaallllzzz

      ASDFGHJKL THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING <3333

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  25. I guess I've been pretty lucky! I have only heard positive things about me pursuing my dreams. I think maybe because of how difficult my life was before, and how unhappy they knew I was. And then all of a sudden I remembered what I had wanted to be all my life - an author! And I took CONTROL and banged out an entire book in one month. So they don't really have a choice but to be excited and/or happy for me! (BOSSNESS LEVEL: ULTIMATE). But I have been at this for a little less than a year, so I think it's safe to assume that the HATERS ARE COMING.

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    1. WHOA YES DUDE YOU HAVE BEEN LUCKY *high fives* Because man, people can be really inconsiderate when it comes to our poor artist feels. :''') but that is so awesome that you are surrounded by people who are supporting you!! THAT IS SO IMPORTANT OMG. I know I need a lot of encouragement from time to time because the artist life can be hard. <3 BUT WORTH IT. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING!! *hugs*

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  26. I still remember my first attempt at realism. I was trying out a new medium and a new style and the result was not just something that let me very satisfied, it also looked realistic. Any artist knows how hard that is and how much work it requires. But what I'll never forget is my father's first reaction after he saw my drawing: he frowned and said "Why didn't you draw horses?" In the end, all of these idiotic comments like to make are just silly and I have stopped paying attention.

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    1. Oh man yeah just not paying attention to peoples' inconsiderate comments is really where it's at. *nod nod* But it certainly does help to be understood. :') Thank you for reading!! <333

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  27. So I'm about to start my third year of university as an english literature undergraduate and i don't regret choosing to attend uni because i love the academic side of literature and i love learning BUT. I want to be a novelist. As if a degree in literature wasn't precarious enough, the only thing I can imagine happily doing with my life is incredibly unreliable and yeah I FEEL the pressure of not fitting into the 'uni, job, marriage, kids' lifestyle, which i probably won't... and sometimes I consider doing a teaching course just to have a 'stable' back up. Basically I have no idea where I'll be this time next year but I know I'm going to keep pursuing my dreams and honestly this post, and your blog in general gives me the strength of mind to realise what a wonderful thing that is. So, thank you!

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    1. ALLIYAH MY HEART. <3 THANK YOU SO MUCH!! omg this comment has seriously made me so happy. :') *gives you lots of hugs and waffles* You go, girl! Chase those dreams -- doing what you love is really where it's at. That's where happiness is found. I know it can be hard to swim against the current of society and what most people expect, but man it's so worth it to go after your dreams and pursue what you truly love. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING AND LEAVING SUCH A SWEET ENCOURAGING COMMENT. <33333 IT MADE MY DAY.

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  28. Oh my gosh I can relate to this so much this is scary. Cause I'm not going to college and I want to be a writer but asjdkfla; SO MANY PEOPLE THINK THAT'S IMPOSSIBLE. Ugh. The struggle. It makes me want to cry. XD

    (but seriously girl if you ever need to moan about the struggle I AM HERE AND I CAN RELATE SO BAD :P)

    // katie grace
    a writer's faith

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    1. BRO YES I NEED TO MOAN ABOUT THE STRUGGLE FOREVER AND ALWAYS AND I'M HERE FOR YOU TOO LET'S CRY ON EACH OTHER'S SHOULDERS AND LISTEN TO TWENTY ONE PILOTS AND KNOW THAT LIFE HAS A HOPEFUL UNDERTONE. <3333333

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  29. HAH, this is so on point. I CAN"T EVEN. Like the comment of disapproval by saying oh. BUT YOU KNOW WHAT? I am happy with what I am doing... so bro, chill!

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    1. GAH YAY THANK YOU VANESSA I'M SO HAPPY YOU CAN RELATE TO THIS POST. <3 And gosh yes you're so right on. As long as we are happy with our lives, what should we be doing differently?? :') *hugs*

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  30. Wow, this post is so accurate XD. Love it, Abbie! Lucky I don't get much criticism - but that could be because most people (that I don't know over the internet) don't even know that I write XD. *is introverted*

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    1. LOL YES I CAN RELATE SAVANNAH. I'm super introverted too so I usually don't bring up my arts unless people demand to know and then I'm like "er....music? and...writing? AND YEAH DON'T SAY ANYTHING I'M GONNA MAKE A LIVING OFF OF IT AND PROVE YOU WRONNGGGG." omg i'm passionate about these things. ahem. THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING. <333

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  31. Go, Abiee! I firmly agree with it all!

    Personally, people don't say those things to ME, because I have kind of stopped telling people what it is that I "do"??? I mean, okay, I never began telling anyone what it is that I do in the first place so...

    Also I'm younger than most and still in high school so I don't really get questioned all that much. And I plan to go to college and oh, please save me from living with my parents forever!!!

    THAT SAID, I ABSOLUTELY, ONE HUNDRED PERCENT understand where you're coming from. All the stuff on your list was so familiar.

    The funny thing, like I said, is that nobody's ever said that to ME, so why does it seem like I've heard it somewhere before? OH, YEAH. THAT WOULD BE ME. #Awkward.

    I think I must seriously think this stuff to myself every day. Or think it about my older brother (he's a pianist and I can practically HEAR people thinking all the things on your list when he tells them what he's doing currently).

    Obviously I need to stop that, but it's so hard not to be scared, ya know? Like what if I AM being impractical and what if it WON'T work...? So I guess I see where people are coming from when they say those things. It's easy to want to play it safe. Artistry is scary, man.

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    1. GAH THANK YOU SO MUCH KAYLA MARIE <333 *hugs and waffles and welcome to my humble blog and omg thank you for following you're a saint* wow yes that is SO TRUE. I didn't even think to mention that but you're so right on -- a lot of times the people who discourage us the most is....ourselves. I know I'm very guilty of talking down my own art or what I do and being like "omg is this even going to work out? what if it doesn't? what if i fail like he/she did? WHAT IF THE APOCALYPSE HAPPENS??" and that's just such a vicious cycle and man I know it well. x)

      Artistry is scary. BUT CHASE YO DREAMS, DUDE (and that goes for your brother, too) because happiness >>>> everything else. ;) THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR READING AND LEAVING THIS BEAUTIFULLY KIND COMMENT. :''''')

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  32. Iiiiiii love this so much. Seriously. WHY DO PEOPLE DO THESE THINGS????? (The criticism. Not the art. Art is good. Very good.)
    On another note, your sarcasm is a balm to my soul. Live yo dream girl. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

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    1. ASDFGHJKL THANK YOU SO MUCH SAMI I KNEW YOU WOULD LOVE THE SARCASM MY SARCASTIC BRAIN TWIN :'''') YOU GET THIS THING AND YOU GET ME AND YOU ARE AWESOME <33333333 HEY YOU LIVE YO DREAM TOO OK ;)

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  33. AHAAA RIGHT. no actual words for this post, but i agree with you %100. here's to the people who step out of their comfort zone (aka artists like are you kidding me. there's so much i could say on this subject. there's all kinds of comfort zones to be stepped out of. WAHWAA. like honesty. you gotta be vulnerable otherwise whatever you're doing is going to be fake -- artists spill their guts.)

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    1. YAAAAS "ARTISTS SPILL THEIR GUTS" <<< BRO WHUT U TALKIN ABOUT NO WORDS U LIKE SAID IT. U SAID IT. *high fives* *flails and hugs you* THANK YOU ASFHGLKJSLAK

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kind words are like raindrops on the desert. they make me bloom with happiness, as absolutely cliche and cheesy as that sounds. even if it's just a simple alt+3 i will heart you for it. so, go ahead! MAKE MY DAY. literally.