10 Reasons Why Internet Friends are the Best of Ever


Let’s talk about internet friends. More specifically, how AWESOME they are. As a homeschooler who has always lived in a small town, the internet is a big part of my life – and the people I’ve met online are even more important to me. Basically you’re awesome and you deserve a post full of me scientifically proving the fact. HERE WE GO. 


01. BECAUSE THEY ARE “REAL FRIENDS.”

Okay, guys. Can we, as a collective people, put to death this idea of internet friends not being “real friends???” As a homeschooler, I get this question SO MANY TIMES: “Do you have any real friends? Like, not on the internet?” It’s as if “internet” could be replaced with “Candyland” in any given sentence. Because we all need real friends, you know the kind that aren’t trapped in another dimension for all of eternity.

Allow me to come right out and say it: THIS IS RIDICULOUS. Internet friends are real friends because they are…(wait for it…) PEOPLE. You’re sitting there, reading this post right now with your very human eyeballs – you are a REAL PERSON. But yet, when you become my friend, you’re not “real” anymore. You’re of the internet species, which WE ALL KNOW is mythological. Go extinct yourself with the dragons.


02. INTERNET FRIENDSHIPS ARE BASED ON VIRTUES, NOT APPEARANCE.

This is perhaps one of the most pure and lovely things about making friends online – appearance isn’t a factor in relationships. It’s all about you and other person’s virtues. What you believe in, what makes you smile, what makes you cry, what makes you fdjfhklsjsflkdn. You can be BFFs with someone whose face you’ve never clapped eyes on – because it’s not about prettiness, it’s about quality of spirit. It’s about being true and loving and good.


03. THEY ARE ALWAYS THERE TO CHEER YOU UP.

Be it through social media, text, or blog comments, my internet friends are the most loyal and dependent people I’ve ever known. Whenever I’m feeling down or needing prayer, I have support from amazing humans. During a particularly hard time when my mom was suffering from Lyme Disease, it was one of my closest internet friends who Skyped me and my sister to pray with us. I remember sitting at my kitchen table, weeping and unable to talk, listening to her lead us in prayer. In other words, some of the closest hands to hold are found online.


04. INTERNET FRIENDSHIPS TAKE MORE EFFORT TO KEEP ALIVE.

IT’S TRUE. Meeting up with a friend at the mall takes less energy than planning a Skype call. I think part of the reason why internet friends are such close friends is because you both have to put forth effort to stay in touch. Long distance means “easy to drift apart.” How are you going to stay friends with someone online? Chances are, you’re going to use a lot of tools that “real friendships” just don’t require.


05. THEY SEND YOU VIRTUAL WAFFLES.

Seriously, WHO ELSE DOES THIS?? I’ll tell you: NO ONE. NOT EVEN YOUR “REAL FRIENDS.” Tell me, when was the last time you woke up to free waffles on your doorstep from the girl down the street? Hmm? HMMM???



06. WHEN YOU MEET THEM IN “REAL LIFE,” IT’S AMAZING.

Amazing isn’t even the right term. How about “YOU WILL PROBABLY BE SURPRISED BY YOU’RE SQUEALING ABILITIES.” Meeting long-time internet friends in real life is like 500 Christmases condensed into one day. I can only assure you from experience. MAKE IT HAPPEN SOMEDAY. (Um…preferably with me? BECAUSE I’D LIKE TO MEET YOU, YOUNG WATERMELON.)


07. THEY ARE SCATTERED ALL OVER THE WORLD.

AKA, having internet friends does NOT mean that you are sheltered and “don’t get out enough to meet people.” In fact, you’re probably more cultured than you would be if you didn’t have internet friends. Because of my adventures in the online world, I’ve had the ability to meet lots of people from other countries and learn about their way of life. It’s not only cool – it’s educational. I’LL TAKE THAT GOLD STICKER NOW, HOMESCHOOL EVAULATOR.


08. INTERNET FRIENDS LIKE WHAT YOU LIKE.

This point might seem kind of shallow, but whatever (I’M A SHALLOW HORSE!) Online, you can make friends with people who are truly similar to you – people who believe in what you believe in. It’s a win-win situation for everyone. Squads become communities – and then things get epic.


09. THEY MAKE GOOD PART-TIME SLAVES.

For, you know, making cookies on demand, telling you that you’re awesome, etc. You’ll find real friends don’t like being slaves for some reason. It takes too much dignity, I hear. (I wouldn’t know, because I’m usually occupying position of ruler.)


10. YOU’RE ONE OF THEM.

You – yes YOU, watermelon, sitting there reading this – make my tribe spectacular. YOU DESERVE A WAFFLE.


Do you have many internet friends? What do you love about them? How do your internet friendships differ from your “real life” friendships? Do you like being a part-time slave? Because if you don’t, just speak to me and I’ll make sure nothing changes. Ahem.

love,
abbiee

54 comments

  1. This is such a sweet post, and totally relatable!!

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  2. One of the coolest things about blogging is that you get to meet people who live halfway across the world from you. Also liking what you like, because geeking out about a TV show, movie, or book is probably how I'll spend about 50% of my life. I think that Internet friends are real friends--they don't replace "real life" friends, but they're just as great and important! Ideally, you'll have some of both.

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    1. I completely agree, Alex!! And yes -- geeking out about fandoms is the BESST and internet friends tend to understand all those obsessions that real life people don't. XD But yes, it's great to have some of both! Thank you for reading ♥

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  3. THIS POST MADE ME SO HAPPY AHH. ALL the virtual waffles for ALL the virtual (REAL) friends!!!

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    1. YAYAYAY!!! *snatches waffles* Thank you, Katie!! I'm so glad you liked this post! :D

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  4. I love it! It's so great to find and collect a bunch of people who are like you, and that's what the Internet can do. :)

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    1. Amen! :) I'm so happy you liked this post, Carmen! ♥

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  5. A to the men. Everything. Internet friends are so amazing. Like, really amazing.
    *throws waffles at your face for posting this*
    All I can say (or scream) is, "SAAAAMMMMEEEEEEEEEEEEEE" to every.single.thing that was mentioned.

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    1. AAAAHHHH YAYAYAY ♥ THANK YOU SO MUCH, GIRL. internet friends are amazing. ESPECIALLY YOU BECAUSE YOU THREW WAFFLES AT MY FACE I MEAN COME ON. ;) *manges them with gratitude*

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    2. your comments and replies make my everything, okay.

      AND YEAH MAN, I'LL THROW WAFFLES AT YOUR FACE ANYTIME, ANY PLACE.

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  6. YES YES YES YOU PREACH IT FELLOW HOMESCHOOLED SMALL TOWN GUURRRLLL
    I am agreeing with you so much I can't even describe what I'm feeling right now. The internet and all my friends I have on there are so important to me, especially since my family is changing churches, so I don't really get to see my friends at home nearly as much anymore. (not that I could see them much before being the introverted homeschooled nerd I am...)
    When you're having trouble in your life, internet friends can really help and be encouraging.
    This post is definitely going on my bookmarks, cuz it's so absolutely amazing and deserves it.
    HERES SOME WAFFLES MAH AMAZING PINEAPPLE
    *hands you a plate of 20 chocolate chip Belgian waffles*
    (haha, so ironic since i just made some this morning xD)
    ME LOVED DA POST
    ~ Suzy

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    1. HEY HEY HEY THERE I'M SO HAPPY YOU LIKED THIS POST/COULD RELATE TO IT (!!!) ♥ Seriously, that is the best. ^.^ Amen amen! Internet friends are so important to me too, and being introverted as well I know exactly how you feel... x) OMGOMGOMG 20 CHOCOLATE CHIP BELGIAN WAFFLES THANK YOU SO MUCH. *stuffs face with the glory* YOU KNOW WHUT UP, DUDE. Thank you so much for reading and bookmarking (!!!) and commenting!! you're clearly one of the awesome ones. ;)

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  7. Rad post! :) It's so cool how the blogging community can connect such a diverse group of people. And you can't forget the perk of endless virtual waffles! <3 :)

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    1. IT IS, ISN'T?? (the thing about the blogging community, not how rad my post is...although that too. #somodest) YES TO ALL THE VIRTUAL WAFFLES. ♥ they just make my heart happy. :) Thank you for reading, Erin dear!!

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  8. *dies laughing* Wowie, I agree with this. I met my best friends online and now I see them in real life all the time. SQUEE.

    But also, I think the "part-time slave" thing is a little dumb because love for one another should be a selfless love -- surrendering our comfort and our desires for the other person. We should always give more than we take and not be looking for how people can contribute to us, but how we can contribute to others. Labeling that as a slave is silly because love is a choice. We're not being forced to love people. (I just wanted to clarify that, but I totally understand if the "part-time slave" thing was a joke)

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    1. YESSSSSSSSS MEETING PEOPLE ONLINE AND THEN IN REAL LIFE IS LIKE A DREAM COME TRUUUUE. Literally. so amazing. ♥ gah! Oh, no I totally agree with you, Cally!! I totally meant the "part time slave" thing as a joke. XD

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    2. WAH. I THOUGHT SO BUT SOME DAYS YOU JUST GOTTA SHOUT TRUTH OUT BECAUSE SARCASM LAYS HEAVILY ON THE WORLD TODAY (WHICH ISN'T ALWAYS A BAD THING, BUT IT CAN BE). so thank you XD

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  9. OH MY GOODNESS I LOVE THIS POST!!! I was just thinking about how many absolutely AMAZING bloggers I have met, and how cool it is. :) I love my internet friends! <3 <3

    P.S. Here are some waffles...because I have a sort of obsession with them too. ;)

    ~Megan
    megans-journals.blogspot.com

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    1. GAH THANK YOU SO MUCH, MEGAN!! :D *gigantic group hugs with all the awesome people I've met online* WE ARE LIKE AMAZING, RIGHT?? yessss. ;) Thank you for reading, dear!! (and for the waffles! squeak!)

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  10. All of this is so true and for some reason I've never thought about it that way. Everyone always told me to beware of talking to people on the internet because you never know..
    I'm trying to break out of this shell because you CAN find good people here and they usually end up to be the best <3

    *whispers* can i be your friend?

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    1. Yes, I totally understand what you mean!! I've always tried to be cautious about that, too. :) The blogging community is a lovely place to be and you're right, there are so many wonderful people who definitely mean no harm. LIKE MEEE YES YOU CAN ABSOLUTELY BE MY FRIEND WELCOME TO THE PARTAY!! *offers chocolate chip waffles because some awesome folk up there ^^^ just gave me 20 so I have a lot to go around* ;) thank you for reading, Mariya! ;D

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  11. Ahhhh, yes! I have a bunch of REAL friend who I've never met in person! It's kind of funny when my parents ask over and over again, "And how do you know this person again?" AND YES IT IS ABSOLUTELY AMAZING MEETING THEM IN REAL LIFE. I've been able to do it with...at least three of my friends...maybe more. And I will hopefully get to meet another this Summer! I'm so excited! So anywho, yeah, this post is all the rage with me.

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    1. HAHA, right?? I get that question from my parents, too. xD it's like, "yessss they are awesome because they are an internet friend!!" And gah, that is SO COOL that you've been able to meet so many people in real life too!! It looks like I'll be meeting a few of my long-time besties in real life this summer which is SOOO EXCITING!! *jumps around dancing like a small child* GAH! thank you for reading and commenting, Maggie!!

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  12. 98% of my friend are Internet friends! You and Kate included! I love internet friends because I can talk to them whenever, but I don't have to get dressed or get out of bed in order to socialize with them. They really don't differ from my "real life" friends except that their voices always sound different than I pictured in my head. Meeting them in real life is so fun. When Danielle and I met in person for the first time, both of our moms were like "are you sure this is a real person" and like we had skyped and talked on the phone and been friends for three years at that point bahahaha.

    YES I WILL BE YOUR ETERNAL SLAVE MUAHAHAHAHAA*


    *until I incite a rebellion to usurp you from your throne

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    1. "...but I don't have to get dressed or get out of bed in order to socialize with them." < YES YES YES THIS IS LIKE THE PERKIEST OF PERKS EVER. xD seriously, such a plus. hahaha. x) I know right??! It's funny when someone's voice is not what you first expected it to be... HAHHA that story is the best. XD AND SPEAKING OF MEETING INTERNET FRIENDS IN REAL LIFE......... *squeals and faints and squeals some more* AHAHAHHAHAHA DUDE THAT LAST LINE. I may or may not be falling on the floor laughing... XD

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    1. YES YES YES YES ♥ ^.^

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  14. This is so true! Internet friends are definitely real friends! Awesome post :)

    Nabila // Hot Town Cool Girl

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    1. I agree!! :) Thank you for reading, Nabila! ♥

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  15. AHHH ABBIEE THIS IS TOTALLY EPIC! Oh my goodness internet friends are honestly THE BEST! They have double the impact on my life as so many non-virtual humans and I wouldn't have become the person I am today without them! Although the only downside of virtual friendships is that you can't reach through the computer screen and give them a big bear hug.
    Love, Em (destinationblissblog.blogspot.com)

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    1. THANK YOUUU EMILY!! Amen amen amen! Same here -- I know I wouldn't be the same person I am today without my internet buddies. ^.^ NO HUGS IS REALLY A PROBLEM, YES. *gives you virtual ones*

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  16. I'm also a homeschooler, so I don't have that many friends outside of the internet, and even though I don't have that many internet friends either, I love to read blogs (such as yours, which is fabulous and inspiring) and discover people who have the same interests as me.

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    1. That sounds like a fabulous way to make new friends!! I can completely relate, Autumn! Also GAH YOU ARE THE SWEETEST OF EVER. ❤️ Thank you for reading!! ;D

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  17. I HAVE TO TELL YOU A STORY OKAY

    My best friend and I took the same online writing course (One Year Adventure Novel) and ended up becoming online friends who skyped all the time and emailed and etc... and then a few years ago we met at a homeschool conference and then I went to spend a week with her and now we go and visit each other a few times a year (we live several hours apart so it's semi-managable) and hang out with each others' families and talk on the phone and send each other ugly selfies when we're at work and it is such a God thing and so wonderful and whoever says internet friends aren't real is lying real hard. So much lying.

    also, I adore this post. <3

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    1. SHE IS THE FRIEND WHO SURPRISED ME AND I BLOGGED ABOUT IT LAST MONTH HER NAME IS MACKENZIE WOW CONNECTIONS

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    2. OLIVIA OLIVIA OLIVIA THAT IS LIKE THE FGJGSJGIHDSIH BEST TESTIMONIAL/STORY OF EVER. A great word for internet friends oh my gosh!! Also yayayay, I was wondering while I was reading your comment if it was the friend who surprised you and took you to see The Finest Hours and I was riiiighhtt muahaha! XD THAT IS AWESOME OKAY thank you for reading dear!!

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  18. OHHH YES THIS POST IS JUST SPOT ON PERFECTION. THAT IS ALL. AHHHH. HUZZAH!! *flings waffles in the air* I absolutely have zero time for humans who believe that internet friendships aren't real. THEY ARE. People I know online know me better than IRL people I've known for decades. So there. *flips hair* Also meeting people IRL who have the exact same interests as you is really hard. I have NEVER met an avid bookworm. I can't even imagine life without having an avid bookworm(s) to talk to -- so tHANK THE INTERNET FOR EXISTING.

    *hugs it and sobs happily*

    I also love internet friends because it's good for introverts (you can expend less energy and you can CHOOSE to socialise when you have the energy) and for people who find it overwhelming to be around a lot of people. <3 Also I like how if you don't have a reply to someone, you DON'T HAVE TO REPLY STRAIGHT AWAY!! HUZZAH!! IRL you have to answer immediately or you're being rude. But I can let an email sit for a while and think about my answer. I ADORE THAT. (My brain doesn't work very quickly with responses omg.)

    Anyway this post is just golden and I couldn't agree more. HERE. HAVE SOME WAFFLES.

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    1. *catches flung waffles* THANK YOUUU MY DEAREST PINEAPPLE QUEEN!! True true, it is SO HARD to find people IRL who share the same interests! And omg yes, I can imagine it would be hard to come by a bookworm like you! COMMUNITY IS SO IMPORTANT. because otherwise life is just sad and lonely :(

      YES YES YES TO ALL. I am quite introverted so it's very nice to socialize (but not too much MUAHA) without leaving my house, getting out of bed, etc. XD ALSO NOT REPLYING TO SOMETHING RIGHT AWAY. SOOO NICE AND PARAMOUNT. My brain is just not here 100% of the time so this way I can give people my best when I'm at my best. GAHH IT ALL WORKS SO PERFECTLY I AM GIDDY. *rubs hands togehter* thank you so much for reading, Cait! Meeeeep!!

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  19. This post is so fabulous <3 Blogger friends are the BEST

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    1. THEY ARE!!! Thank you for reading, Grace Anne!! ;D

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  20. I have had a couple of "internet" friends so far... and personally I never felt any different. There is one who I have been friends with for almost 15 years now, and we have only met once! He lives in Toronto, and I, depending on the season, somewhere in the United States. I made the journey way up north only once, and when we met (in real life), we felt perfectly at ease with each other! So yeah, I think you can totally be "REAL" friends with people even if you mostly communicate online. Is there a difference between friends you see every week and friends you chat on the internet several times a week? Yes, definitely. But that is not to say that one is better or worse than the other... it all depends on so many other things than just the method of communication... uhm... preachy post much? Sorry about that...

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    1. Thank you for reading, Maliha and for the thoughtful comment!! ;) it's so true, there are differences between Internet and "real life" friends and one is not better or worse than the other. :) it's so cool that you were able to visit and meet your internet friend in real life!! That is always such a cool experience. ❤️

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  21. I AM REPLYING WITH MY HUMAN HANDS!

    I just wanted to say that ever since I have been reading your blog, commenting, reading comments and emailing you I have felt welcome and appreciated! You're such a wonderful person! I started making internet friends on Instagram about two years ago and have kept in contact with them! As for blogger friends, I just recently within the year have gotten close to everyone!

    What a wonderful and happy post! Thank you for making my day! I'm suppose to be doing homework but... oh well!!!

    Much love,
    Vanessa

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    1. GAH OH MY GOODNESS VANESSA YOU ARE LIKE THE SWEETEST AND LOVLIEST WATERMELON EVER. *squeals and dances about* this comment made me so happy! I even had to read it out loud to my mom and smile so much :) thank you!!! I'm so glad you enjoyed this post and could relate to it! Gah well homework can wait... XD thank you again! You rock. ❤️

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  22. What an excellent idea for a post! There is a need for people to realize the value of internet friends, and you are the first person I've found addressing it!

    And, point 02 - I've never thought of it that way before, but it's so true! And that just makes it even more beautiful... Yes, my internet friends are a huge encouragement to me (you included. :)

    P.s I hate to be critical, but I did notice under 06 it says "YOU’RE" instead of 'your'. Just letting you know... :O

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  23. *aggressively supports this post in every way*
    ps guess what? super thankful that we get to be internet friends & for someone who appreciates waffles as much as me :''') YOU INSPIRE ME. xo

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    1. PS WHY CAN I NEVER REMEMBER TO PUT EVERYTHING IN THE SAME COMMENT.
      o well. but i had to say that the typography or whatever in the picture for this post is worthy of all the heart eyes. i actually want to be yOU.

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  24. Such a lovely post and I totally AGREE with you! Internet friends are the best because they have the same interests and the fact that a person can have friends all over the world just blows my mind! That's amazing, if you aks me! I've met a lot of my real life friends through internet and I'm so happy it happened because they are precious to me. Oh and the moment we actually met was just awesome. :D

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  25. Throughout my first year of blogging, I'm discovering more and more the beauty of internet friends. Admittedly, I haven't put in the necessary work to develop long, intimate relationships with many people, but the comments, emails, and little ways of friendship shared online makes life more fun!

    AND I AM SO GLAD TO CALL YOU MY INTERNET FRIEND!!!! LIKE, YOU ARE GOING TO BE A FAMOUS SINGER ONE DAY AND I WILL *all chill-like* SCREAM WITH EXCITEMENT!!!

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  26. Internet friends have been my whole life. I've met tons, lost a lot, but I always have those select few that stick around no matter what. They've been there for me as much as I've been there for them, and I could not be more thankful that I've met such wonderful people.

    The best part is that when your world goes completely crap, you still have those friends that will always listen, be there, and just try their best to help or even just talk to you until it's over.

    They're not even internet friends at this point, they're just really amazing friends and I wouldn't replace them for anything in the world.

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  27. My mom just grounded me for talking to my internet friend, and when she calms down I will use points from this for sure to get her to let me talk to my internet friend! (Who is closer to me than my "real" friends btw)

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kind words are like raindrops on the desert. they make me bloom with happiness, as absolutely cliche and cheesy as that sounds. even if it's just a simple alt+3 i will heart you for it. so, go ahead! MAKE MY DAY. literally.