How to be a Better Blogger - Part 01, Episode 02: Showing Up


Well here we are: part one, episode two of the How to be a Better Blogger series. Before we get started, I just really want to say THANKYOUSOMUCHOMG to everyone who read and commented on episode one of this new little series. I wasn’t sure if it was going to be interesting for you guys (and I always have your best interest at heart, loves) so I was very glad to read such positive feedback. And psssh you guys are like THE BEST READERS EVER, did I mention? No? Here, have some ice cream.

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So you have a blog…

First of all, good for you! But with a blog comes the responsibilities of ownership. That means you have to take care of your blog and always, always, always show up. Literally I cannot stress this point enough. If you are serious and passionate about what you want to create through your blog, then just show up. Don’t worry about how many followers you have!

You don’t have to gain a following before you start creating great content. Just focus on creating great content and be amazed when awesome people come out of the woodwork to see what you’re up to.

Trust me on this – you are awesome. Don’t believe anyone who tells you that you have to create specific content to be marketed towards a specific demographic. Don’t be pop when you want to be blues. Don’t blog about one thing when you want to blog about ten things. Don’t limit yourself. Just be yourself.


Authenticity is where it’s at, bro.

In real life, people are interested in what I’m doing. They want to know what projects I’m working on and why I’m passionate about them. It’s no different on the internet.

I’m awesome. (Thank you for agreeing – we shall be friends and you shall have a waffle.) I know that I’m awesome and I know that in real life, people love me. So if I could just expose my awesomeness to all of you guys, you would quickly discover how much you want to be my friend and support everything I do. It works in the reverse order too, lest you think I’m a self-absorbed meringue.


So the goal isn’t: “How do I get people to like me?”
The goal is: “How do I let people see who I really am?”

If by visiting your blog, people gleaned a fantastic understanding of who you are, they would absolutely want to follow and support you because they like you. And there’s only one way to show people who you are: SHOW UP.


Pace yourself.

Remember: everyone works best at their most comfortable pace. If it’s not comfortable for you to be posting three or four times a week, then scale it down a little. Try posting twice a week, once a week, or even a couple of times a month.


When I say “show up,” I don’t mean “fry your brain cranking out as many posts as you possibly can!” You never want to stoop that low. Don’t let your blog enslave you, or stack up obligations – because one day, you’re going to crack under the pressure and it’s not going to be pretty.

The most important element to blogging is sincere enjoyment. If you’re not enjoying your blog, then what good is it? Creative content is birthed from a place of happiness. When you’re filled with joy and excitement for the projects you’re working on, your best is inevitable.

Blogging is an adventure, not a guilt trip. Don’t ever feel depressed or down-on-yourself for not writing a post or showing up as often as your “perfect” self would. Show up at your own pace, write with your heart, and never stop dreaming. My yoga teacher said it best during practice yesterday:

Life is not a race to run. It is an adventure to be enjoyed. (And so is your blog.)

Do YOU ever get down-on-yourself about not showing up? How often do you post? Have you ever thought about posting a little bit less and living a little bit more? Or procrastinating a little bit less and posting a little bit more? What makes you happy and/or creative?

love,
abbiee

24 comments

  1. I need to do more yoga, lol + good quote. I'm trying to post 2-3 times a week now, but sometimes it's nice to slow down a bit and do less depending on how I'm feeling. I love making and creating things and then sharing it and seeing what people think. I like the way you think and write by the way! - Becky x

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    1. Hey Becky! Thank you so much for dropping by and leaving a comment! Your words mean a lot to me. :) Yesssss, yoga is so restorative and just yummy. ♥ That's a great posting schedule -- the best schedules are the ones that are flexible. YOU A SMART ONE. Can't wait to check out your blog!! ;)

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  2. Totally agree, although I haven't been super present in the blogosphere for a while. Also, that first gif is perfection.

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    1. Life can happen, though, y'know? As long as you're enjoying it, and never feeling guilty. I know I love to read your posts when they do happen! :) AND YES, OMG. Her expression = my attitude towards life. xD

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  3. Do I ever get down on myself? Um, no, never. <--that was sarcastic.

    I post as often as the creativity strikes. Which occasionally means twice or thrice a week and sometimes means once a month. What can I say, I'm kind of...not very good at showing up. XD

    And I think about posting every day.... but lots of days I just.... don't. *shrugs* I AM NOT REALLY A GOOD BLOGGER, OKAY? ;-P

    What makes me happy and creative...........depends on the day. Some days, it's EVERYTHING. Some days, it's just not happening. XD

    Loverly post as always. :-)

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    1. XD I CAN RELATE THO, BROTHER. *huddles in a guilty heap to cry with you* I get down on myself A LOT, and it's not pretty nor is it right. ugh. You've been posting quite a bit lately, though! I feel like an old lady trying to look after an energetic kid (your blog) -- CAN'T KEEP UP. But I'm trying, dude. Trying. ;) "Some days, it's EVERYTHING. Some days, it's just not happening." < oh man but you don't know how much I can relate to that. xDD love you girl!! ♥

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  4. Firstly, SORRY SORRY SORRY for not being here in like, forever. I got over-blogged and just needed a break, so I kind of ghosted for like a week but NOW I AM RETURNED. hallelujah.

    Secondly, I needed this post so much!! You started talking about "showing up" to your blog, and I was like, great here comes the guilt (because I ghosted my own blog and didn't post, either, mostly because I've also been ghosting my own manuscript and not writing, either - it's been a weird week - and long story short I just ehhhhhhh in so many ways.) But then your post was so reassuring and relaxing and I actually feel much better. So thank you. :) And I loved the point about showing who you are instead of trying to get peoplE to like you, and

    THE DOWNTON ABBEY GIFS OH MY GOODNESS GRACIOUS ME

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    1. Oh don't be sorry, girl! I can COMPLETELY understand. Over-blogging is dangerous stuff. THE BURNOUT. O_O But I'm so glad you're back! Oh, I've been kind of "eh" lately, too. xD Can totally relate there. And YES. When I sat down to draft this post I was like, "I CAN'T MAKE THIS A GUILT TRIP" because I've read how-to-blog posts before about "showing up" and they kind of make me feel like a dead squid after I was finished reading. SO NEEDLESS TO SAY I'M LIKE SO HAPPY THAT THIS MADE YOU REASSURED AND RELAXED. BECAUSE THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT I WAS TRYING VERY HARD TO DO. ♥ so yay.

      DOWNTON GIFS FOREVER. I'm fairly sure Downton is just going to completely take over this series. #takethatworld xD THANK YOU FOR READING, DEAR. ♥

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  5. YES. gah i just loved this post so much! i know that so often for me i'm just like burned out at the end of a week and i'm just like, "oh great. i have a blog." i mean i love blogging so much, but if i make it something like a job, i never have that passion for it. i also love what you said about showing the reader WHO you are rather than trying to create a fake online you. that's so awesome. And also this post in general. SO MUCH AWESOMENESS <3

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    1. EEEE YAY. I can totally relate to the burnout, man. Sometimes it just can't line up with schedules -- because hey, it's life. :P I feel THE SAME EXACT WAY. Like I would never make anything I love a job because I know that I'd end up resenting it and quitting. (I know because it's happened to me before. xD) gaaaaaah thank you for your sweet words, Autumn! I'm so glad you liked this post. ♥

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  6. I love this so much! THANK YOU. I always get super upset with myself if I'm not posting like, every other day, and I get so burnt out. I love blogging, but dear heavens it's stressful sometimes. Thanks for this reminder:)

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    1. Ugh I've been there girl. ♥ IT'S TOUGH JUNK THO. And I'm so glad you liked this post and got something out of it! :)

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  7. I post about once a week currently XD IN MY DEFENSE MY BLOG IS A FETUS.

    Also, I exhaust myself by getting super worked up about the post topics. So, there's that. I need to make a more personal post soon. Once I post just *one* more rant/sermon.

    I love this series. That is all.

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    1. HEY, ONCE A WEEK IS GREAT! xD And it's apparently too fast for this old lady to keep up with (insert squinting tooth-smile emojis here) UGH UGH need to get o're there. TODAY, BRO. But that is so cool that you get worked up and passionate about the topics on your blog!! Because a lot of people lack that passion and it shows through their writing and I'm just over here like, "dude. you're sick of talking about this, aren't you?" xD EEEEE THANK YOU for the sweet comment, Ashlyn dear. ♥

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  8. I forgot to mention this last post, but DOWNTON ABBEY GIFS!!!!! They are da best.

    And next, this is a great post presenting a realistic and clarifying side of blogging. I think that I've established a good rhythm of posting once a week (and I think I've only missed like two weeks), but I'm actually in the process of making some of my posts less weighty. I put so much into them, when I think it might be a nice change to do shorter posts, each carrying a piece of a larger message. This would make it easier for me to write them and have time to read other people's posts. Also, shorter posts make it easier for the readers to read them too.

    And I'm still happy about those Downton gifs!

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    1. UM YES. ♥ Downton GIFs forever. They just make me happy, y'know? THAT IS SUCH A GREAT POINT, HANNAH. Like...I have an urge to rant. ALL THE TIME. I could rant forever and ever and into oblivion, but I understand that readers don't have all the time in the world to read my rants? lol. So yes, it's SUPER important to keep things brief, as difficult as that may be. xD Thank you so much for reading, Hannah! :)

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  9. OMG YES. I totally freak out about not showing up enough. xD When my blog was smaller it was so easy to blog all. the. time. but now that I'm having to back off, I feel like such a slacker. When in reality I'm just trying to keep on top of things. AND KEEP COMFORTABLE. Because you're so right: blogging needs to be fun. Creativity kind of freaks out and runs away if one is stressing over it. Oh you are so wise Abbie. SO WISE. ;)
    I love this series. LOVE IT.

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    1. FUHSAJKDNKSALND YOU THINK I'M WISE. ♥ THAT HAS MADE MY DAY. Literally thank you so much, dear!! And yes -- it's so true. But you're like PSSH THE FURTHEST THING FROM A SLACKER OMG. You're one of the hardest working bloggers I've ever witnessed. O_O you are just on. top. of. things. You rule, y'know? "Creativity kind of freaks out and runs away if one is stressing over it." < I couldn't have said it better myself. ;) Thank you for reading and commenting, Cake!!

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  10. You're totally spot on, again. I can't wait to see what else you pull up for this series... This is one of the hardest things about blogging, I think, and something not everybody gets. You have to enjoy it, and be you, and do what works for you so you can put your heart into it. Because when you put heart in, you get heart out.

    I used to get down on myself for not posting as often as I thought I ought to, but when I let it go, and decided to post when I wanted to, when I felt inspired, however often that was, it made it so much more enjoyable, and I found that I had more I wanted to share, and ended up posting more often. (With the exception of this month, because I've been away...)So I think the two kind of go together - when you enjoy it, and be real, it's easy to show up!

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    1. Yes, it definitely is one of the hardest things about blogging...if you're not enjoying it, then there's really no purpose to do it -- not even for money, because that's just sad. I believe that you should be doing what you love to produce an income (or at least be working towards being able to do what you love.)

      That is so great! And it's best to do it when you feel inspired, like you said. "...when you enjoy it, and be real, it's easy to show up!" < UGH YES SO TRUE. Literally, that is exactly what I was attempting to say. x) I love it. Thank you for reading, Jessica!!

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  11. *claims the waffle because i think you're awesome* nO SHAME ;)

    i feel like i should post more often, but i struggle so much coming up with content i like (i'm hands-down a perfectionist) and that i think others will like. because i do writing pieces and poetry and short stories and creative writing and stuff, i find it hard to write about updates and constantly having to come up with inspirational beautiful words sometimes stresses me out. i can go weeks without posting and trying behind-the-scenes to write something, but it can't be forced out and sometimes i feel so bad for the lack of consistency :( any advice?? hehe.

    this is a great series! can't wait to see more! <3 xx

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    1. YAYYYY. Waffles rule. ;) Ugh I am hands-down a perfectionist, too. xD IT'S A HARD LIFE, AIN'T IT? People are usually like, "Oh you can stop trying so hard. Come on." And I'm over here like, "BUT NOOO, YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND I CANNNN'T." It's a problem (sometimes.) So yes. I can totally relate to what you are saying. x)

      Well, I'm going to be delving further into that kind of advice as this series goes on -- talking about creating posts/content and the best way (I find) to do that. :) But for now I would say this: Whenever you have an idea (any idea!) for a blog post, write it down in a journal or a word document. Maybe even start writing it. You don't have to write the whole thing then and there, but just get your ideas out on paper. The second thing I would recommend is schedule your posts on a calendar. Don't actually "schedule them to post" (although you could if you wanted to -- but I don't) just plan out when you're going to post a certain thing and jot it down on a calendar, evenly spacing out the posts however you want. (I usually like to do 3 days between each post.)

      So yeah, that's the advice I would give for that kind of thing. :) Thanks for asking, dear! But above all, just make sure you're enjoying blogging. Never feel guilty because that won't help us ever. AND YOU'RE AWESOME, SO THERE. ;) Thank you so much for reading and commenting, Liz! ♥

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  12. Lately, I've been aiming for pacing myself. Publishing posts that matter a lot to me, about once a week (but hopefully more). Loving this series!

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    1. Thank you so much for reading and commenting, Rebekah!! I'm so happy you're enjoying this series. ♥

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