Is It Good To Be Introverted? (Or Are You Missing Out On EVERYTHING FUN EVER?)


Like many other kids on the blogosphere, I am an introvert. (90% introverted, if we’re going to be all exact and stuff.) Much like my small dog, Pearl, I observe the terrifyingly realistic world from the safety of my house, which is placed discreetly at the end of a dirt road in the woods. Much like my small dog, I am DESTROYED INSIDE AND OUT by too much interaction with other humans, vaguely annoyed with the existence of everyone, and I might growl at you* if you try to touch my hair.

Don’t get me wrong: I LOVE PEOPLE.** But I can only take so much of them. Then I need to retreat to my head for the next few hours. I listen to conversations and rarely talk, causing most people to think I am either a) deaf, b) mute, c) angry, or d) sad. Chances are, I’m all of the above BUT THAT’S NOT THE POINT. I just like listening. I like being quiet. I like being alone. But for some people, that sounds like a more apocalyptic existence than permanently camping out in a pit of snakes. Does this mean I’m missing out on something? Have I been missing out on EVERYTHING for my entire life?? LET’S FIGURE IT OUT, FRENS.

* or bite you, depending on my mood.

** this statement comes with a long list of justifications. for more detail, please see abbiee’s official book of what’s wrong with every human on the face of the earth chapters 1 through 254. 

To be honest, we can’t figure out anything without a proper pros and cons list. (This is the part where you nod and agree.) THUS: THE PROS AND CONS OF BEING AN INTROVERT.

PROS:
- we stay inside and listen to music
- we don’t speak to people
- we don’t socialize
- we think and think and think and think and think and
- we are isolated gems hidden in vaults sixteen doors deep (basically the Sea Of Flames)

CONS:
- we stay inside and listen to music
- we don’t speak to people
- we don’t socialize
- we think and think and think and think and think and
- we are isolated gems hidden in vaults sixteen doors deep (basically the Sea Of Flames)

WELL THAT WAS JOLLY HELPFUL WASN’T IT?? No. That’s the thing: everyone has different personalities. What one person thinks is good, another person thinks is bad. The truth is, there are pros and cons to everything under the sun. (That makes you feel a little more confident about your whole wheat or rye decision, doeSN’T IT??)


The problem is a lot of people think that introverts don’t have fun. But just because we don’t have fun doing the same things those people have fun doing doesn’t mean we don’t have fun. This makes TOTAL GRAMMATICAL SENSE and it also makes total logical sense. LET’S SEE HOW. 

I’ll tell you: lying on the floor and staring at the ceiling for three hours. I KID YOU NOT. I can have the time of my life doing this. Especially if I’m thinking about books, listening to music, or simply observing the flower-shaped ceiling fan.

OR OR OR HOW ABOUT EDITING PHOTOS? Writing a blog post? Drawing? Painting? Looking at Downton Abbey GIFs? Any of these activities sound 85216433125 times more interesting to me than socializing with a group of people, shopping at the mall, or even being seen in public for that matter.


The point is, not all people are alike. Not all introverts are alike, either! We all have different ideas of fun. Cait and I ESPECIALLY RESENT IT when books/movies tell the story of an introverted/quiet/reserved protagonist whose life doesn’t really begin until she starts being more extroverted and outgoing. WHY??? JUST WHY? Extroverts have just as much fun as introverts. My frens, there is a difference between liking your comfort zone and absolutely dyiNG WITHOUT your comfort zone.


Just because I’m a small anti-social dog who likes to stay inside all day and not see humans doesn’t mean I’ve never pushed myself out of my comfort zone. SIR, I MOST CERTAINLY HAVE. Shout out to my parents here: they have always helped guide me out of my comfort zone to do uncomfortable but good-for-me things, such as singing with a microphone, leading a conversation, directing a collaborative film project, getting up on stage to speak in front of a crowd, etc. Yes, there is fun and exciting stuff outside your comfort zone. No, you might not feel that confident reaching for it. In fact, you probably won’t feel confident at all. You’ll probably want to shrivel up like a small sickly zucchini. BUT YOU’LL MAKE IT OUT ALIVE.


There’s also a difference between being uncomfortable with something but knowing “hey this is actually good for me” and pretending to be something you’re not. Starting a conversation? Not gonna kill you. Actually gonna probably make you feel good about yourself. Metamorphosizing into the social butterfly because you want to “fit in” or “have more fun?” Probably gonna make you miserable.  

When you push yourself outside your comfort zone, you discover things that you might fall in love with. But it’s not like life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness dance cheerfully JUST out of your reach. INTROVERTS HAVE FUN TOO. We just have a different idea of fun! Of course, 97,000% of our lives consist of over-analysis and mental torment, but pssh THAT’S A WALK IN THE PARK OK. Seriously. You think we are confusing when we talk?? You should see our brains when we aren’t talking. 


Have I made any sense at all here today?? ARE YOU AN INTROVERT? It’s totally okay if you’re not, because I mean we love extroverts too. ;) After all, without extroverts, who would start a conversation?? AHEM. What is YOUR idea of fun? Do you #HAAAAATE on books/movies that stereotype introverts as “the boring people??” BECAUSE I DO. LIKE A LOT. Let’s talk about fun things like personalities and acting like dogs!!

love,
abbiee

To Swim



maybe we don't open our eyes all the way because
i t ' s   h a r d

and someone told us not to
oh it's black out there
n i g h t

maybe we don't swim in the ocean because we don't know it's there
waiting for us
coral reefs
trapeze dolphins
snail armies
whale choirs
herring ballets
b l u e
and
o u r s

but the puddles in the street are so much more
i n t e r e s t i n g

maybe we don't go diving because
nobody ever told us that we were born
knowing how to
s w i m

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When I write poetry I feel like I’m trying to communicate something but I fail miserably. AHEM. Here’s a little road trip brain gut-job that I don’t know if it makes sense and my grammar is dead so forgive me ok. Love you guys and what’s up today? Hmm?? Tell me all the things.

love,
abbiee

Why Do Writers Procrastinate On Editing? (And how to JUST STAHP)


If you’re a writer, you know one thing more than you know your own name*: EDITING IS HARD. It’s arguably the least fun stage of the writing process. It involves copious notes, red pens, tears, hair transplants, and chocolate.

Some of you might know that I just started editing one of my books, so this terrifying little experience is fresh in my mind! YAY. Because I’m obviously so good at coping with high levels of stress, I’m going to give you some very sagacious advice on why exactly you’re running away from editing and how to JUST STAHP. (As in, dry your tears, stuff the rest of that chocolate bar into your face, and carry on.)
* plz give me some solidarity and tell me that i’m not the only one who forgets her own name every so often.


BECAUSE IT’S OBVIOUSLY TERRIFYING.

HONESTLY. Editing is scary for a number of reasons. First, you just wrote this book! It’s a first draft! IT’S MESSY. It’s filled with typos and grammar mistakes and plot holes. It’s basically a warzone. If you value your life at all, you’ll stay very far away from the front lines of that first draft.


BECAUSE WRITERS ARE (USUALLY) NOT EDITORS.

We don’t feel confident in what we’re doing. A red pen feels like a loaded gun that you don’t know how to fire. What ARE grammar mistakes, anyway?? WHAT ARE WORDS? Did I use the right ones or didn’t I? (Is my QUESTION even grammatically correct?) We are either overly-cautious and don’t edit enough or we’re overly-stabby and cause literary bloodshed. Either one is probably not fabulous.

WHY YES I LIKE STICKY NOTES....A LOT.

BECAUSE CHOPPING UP YOUR OWN BOOK IS BRUTAL AND SAD AND MURDEROUS.

BOOKS ARE PRACTICALLY LITTLE BABIES THAT HAVE NO EXPERIENCE OF THE EVIL EDITING WORLD. They are precious cinnamon rolls. And who would kill a cinnamon roll??? NOT ME NO SIR. Creating a second draft is stressful and hard, and quite honestly WE DON’T WANT TO BE RESPONSIBLE FOR THE DAMAGE.


BECAUSE WRITERS ARE NOT WRITERS. IN FACT, WE ABSOLUTELY SUCK.

The more we read our work, the more we grow numb to how unique or interesting it is. Because most of the editing process is reading the thing EIGHT BILLION TIMES, after a while it might not seem like the most fascinating and brilliant work of literature that ever was. THIS IS NORMAL. In fact, if you felt like your story was fresh and awesome on proof read #8574125562, I would very probably be concerned for your memory.*
* sort of like how you should be concerned for mine. i laugh at the same stupid jokes in my book even on the 8574125562nd read. lol beware of this dog.


BECAUSE IT TAKES FOREVER.

Draft after draft, my book still might suck. Just think about all the things I could be doing instead of spending ALL THAT TIME editing! I could be making chocolate chip waffles or having a Downton Abbey marathon or BOTH. Why would I spend hours and hours pulling my hair out and crying instead?? THERE IS NO DECISION TO BE MADE HERE. 




BE A SMART WORD-ASSASSIN, NOT JUST A PLAIN OLD WORD-ASSASSIN.

Anyone can stomp into a book with a machete and cheerfully chop hours of hard work to pieces. But you, my writerly friend, know what needs to stay and what needs to go. YOU’RE THE PARENT OF YOUR BOOK-CHILD. You know it better than anyone. SO ACT LIKE IT. Don’t sacrifice creativity for a “polished” manuscript. Don’t chop gold for the sake of word count. If you can’t recognize your own creativity, get someone else’s opinion. Not everything progresses the plot, but that doesn’t make it fluff. BE SMART, SON.


BE PATIENT.

Of course it takes forever. IT’S EDITING. The hours might be long, but they are satisfying. Even if all you did was grammar check and tweak a few sentences! Even if there’s no obvious metamorphosis, you’ll feel good about yourself for doing something.


WHEN YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO, CRY.

It helps, I promise. When the plot holes become deeper and the characters start acting like inconsistent vegetables and the writing style is drier than the Sahara, you might just need a little break. Be kind to yourself. Eat some waffles. Go pet a unicorn. Watch Downton Abbey. Come back to your book tomorrow with extra tissues (just in case.) 


GET SOMEONE ELSE’S OPINION/CRITIQUES.

Confession time: I have the best mother in the universe.* She reads my writing, critiques it, edits it, and even rewrites some of it. We brainstorm over plot issues and fix things together. She points out details that I don’t even notice. That’s why it’s SO IMPORTANT to have someone else reading your stuff. Because there are flaws that your brain will pathetically miss EVERY SINGLE TIME. It’s impossible for one person to notice everything.**

* SORRY I GUESS THAT WAS MORE THAN A CONFESSION it was kind like a world-crushing fact because you’ll probably never meet her (I keep her all to myself MUAHAHAHA) and how sad for you.

** quoted from: abbie’s unofficial book of pretend facts and statistics, part ii, chapter v, line xxvii.


STRAP ON YOUR NIKES AND JUST DO IT.

Don’t let anyone tell you that “you’re not an editor and you can’t do this and you need an editor to do this for you” – ESPECIALLY YOU. The first person to talk you out of editing your own book will be YOU. Don’t believe your lies! YOU CAN DO THIS. I have faith in you, and that’s all that matters. (Right??) If you tell yourself that you’ve got this thing all day…well then you’ve got this thing all day.


GO SLAY SOME WORDS!!

Do you edit your books? What do you hate about it? Beside the hair loss part of course – I’m sure that can’t be fun for anyone. What do you like about it? *nervous laughter* TRYIN’ TO BE OPTIMISTIC HERE, FOLKS. Do you procrastinate like a sleep-deprived sloth??? TELL ME ALL THE THINGS.

love,
abbiee

The Music Tag


So forever and a day ago, my bestie Aaliyah nominated me to do this FABULOUS TAG ABOUT MUSIC!! (Thank you, bro!) *screams and flails* I’m OBVIOUSLY not excited about this at all. ;) Music is my love, people. It’s everything I can’t say, everything I can say but don’t want to. IT’S EVERYTHING. Just close your eyes for a minute and imagine the APOCALYPTIC WASTELAND that would ensue if music didn’t exist. Now that you have a cheery mental image to focus on, LET’S GET THE PARTY STARTED. 

RULES:
01. Thank the person who tagged you and include and link to their blog. (because kindness, bro)
02. Answer the questions asked below.
03. Tag 5+ bloggers and let them know. (social media, text, email, comment, whateves)
04. Add your own question to the end of the tag for your nominees to answer and answer it yourself. (optional, but fun)
05. Include these rules in your post.


01. DO YOU PLAY ANY INSTRUMENTS?

YES BRO. ONE. You thought this was going to be more climactic right? BECAUSE I’VE LIKE PUBLISHED MUSIC AND STUFF? No. I’m very unspectacular, actually. I play the piano, and I actually don’t play it that well. I have friends who can play soooo much better than me. BUT I REALLY WANT TO LEARN THE DRUMS. (Because if I can’t marry them, then I might as well play them??? idk it’s not really a great compromise but whatever.) For now I'll just pretend I can play the drums. 



02. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE MUSIC GENRE?

I’VE THOUGHT LONG AND HARD ABOUT THIS ONE. Because I love soooo many genres! But if I were to describe my idea of perfection, it would be: rock/soul/alternative/western/gritty/ASDFGHJKL. That’s the best wordy description I can think of, but if you want a real life example of this, listen and weep, my frens.


03. IS THERE A MUSIC GENRE YOU ABSOLUTELY CANNOT STAND?!

COUNTRY COUNTRY COUNTRY COUNTRY COUNTRY. And don’t you ever mistake folk rock OR western for country. DON’T YOU DARE. *readies unicorn armies just in case*


04. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE WAY TO LISTEN TO MUSIC? (CD, VINYL, MP3, RADIO, ETC.)

Definitely MP3. Just because all the music I could ever want is on my iPad, and that still amazes me because like TECHNOLOGY??? (idk I’m a 90’s kid so I grew up awed by VHS tapes.) But vinyl is a beautiful creature. I loved how Erin said it once: listening to a vinyl is like burning a candle. It’s more of an experience. It has a different presence. DOES ANYBODY GET ME OUT THERE??


05. TOP THREE FAVORITE BANDS/SINGERS?

THIS IS HARD AALIYAH STOP OKAY JUST STOP. I struggled with this answer so much and I’m going to reiterate what Aaliyah said about not necessarily liking everything by a band/artist but you still really like them?? SO THIS IS HARD. I’m going off of who I love BASICALLY ALLLL the music by. (lololol so plz ignoRE MY SCHIZOID GRAMMAR.) 

01. TWENTY ONE PILOTS
02. SWITCHFOOT
03. BUILT BY TITAN

BUT THERE ARE SO MANY OTHERS OMG. If you care, I’ve been currently shrieking over: NEEDTOBREATHE, Amber Run, Royal Deluxe, J2, The Lumineers, and too many soundtrack composers to name. <3

if you don't love Twenty One Pilots after this gif, idk what ur doing

06. WHAT ARE YOUR THREE FAVORITE CHORDS?

OOOH I LOVE THIS QUESTION. IT’S A HARD ONE. But I’m going to pick: F, Bb, C. Those are actually important chords in a song I wrote like 5 years ago. I’m going to record it and put it on the album, so that’s kind of exciting. *screams quietly into a pillow*


07. (MY QUESTION MUAHAHA) IS THERE ANY INSTRUMENT YOU CANNOT STAND IN A SONG?

For me, it’s saxophone. DON’T ASK ME WHY I JUST HAVE A FIERY HATRED FOR DA SAX. It seriously ruins every song it touches, in my helpful opinion. AHEM.


I THEREFORE TAG:



FLAIL OVER MUSIC WITH ME HOW ABOUT. Do you play any instruments? What are your three favorite bands? Do you have absolutely zero tolerance for country music too? LET’S BE BEST FRENS.

>><< 
abbiee